4 Rules to Get over an Evil Ex

Every girl comes to a point where she gets her heart broken by some one she's loved, it doesn't matter if it is a guy or girl, who really doesn't give a crap about her. That's what we usually consider an evil ex because they wasted your time, leading you on and left you stuck with a broken heart. Now I am going to tell you four rules to get over that evil ex that I have given myself and has worked.

WARNING: I AM GOING TO BE BLUNT AS FUDGE HERE.

Rule 1 - You're No Longer Together!

The first thing you have to take in and realize is that you two are NO LONGER TOGETHER! That means unless it is a threat to you physically or mentally, their actions and feelings are no longer your concern. THEIR WELL BEING DOES'T MATTER ANYMORE! If you need help getting him off your mind or staying out his business, Delete them from your friends list off social media, Set their phone name as "Don't answer," so if they call or text you, You are reminded not to answer and you will have proof in case you need to take it to the police.

Now, I'm not telling you to be mean, I am not saying be "petty" and talk shit about your ex not being shit. I am telling you to set your boundaries and stick to them. Seeing that you aren't together anymore, Your life is not their concern so don't try to let them know what is going on with you and if they ask how you're doing it is simply none of their business. They don't need to hear about your love life, hang out with you and they better not be in your house at all or you have open arms for them when they "need" you. It makes you look foolish, and makes your ex feel like they got you under their dirty thumb.

Rule 2 - Recollect and Recognize yourself

Okay, so you see your ex with another girl, and you start to feel that jealousy brew inside your stomach and the voices in your head start asking question after question and the most famous one of all is "What does she got that I don't got?" Now if that question ever comes to your head, STOP RIGHT THERE. First of all, remind yourself that the new girl now carries the burden of your ex. That’s the main thing you don't have. It's not a competition. She has him or her, and that's the end of it.

A new relationship is not the answer, sleeping around with people will not make you feel good. The status of your ex isn’t your concern and your love status isn't their concern. Love is not a race.

Many females, not all, tend to forget this and they end up rushing to someone new, either because they don’t want to be alone or because they want to make their ex jealous. Don't do it, it makes you look bad, makes you feel worse and it takes a lot away from you. How can you expect to love someone else if you aren't back to loving yourself fully yet?

Now, being single isn't bad at all. When your single, it's the best time to work on yourself, figuring what you specifically want in your next relationship, and most of all, you are finding the real you again.

The real you? Aren't you already you? Yes you may still be (insert your name here), but you aren't really you. Why I say this is because when we are in a relationship a lot of things change for us. For example, in one very old relationship, I became more isolated and I didn't talk much to people, nor really was ever happy. He had me in a bubble where I would really only talk to him and only him (I will tell this story another time), and when we broke up, I lost my best friend, my lover and I really didn't know what to do.

How did I fix this? Well, even though he and I promised to be best friends for life, I set my boundaries with him and blocked him for a bit and focused on myself. I did everything I could do. I actually started focusing on my future, finished high school, I actually became a planner person (I'll explain that in another article) and I did things that made me happy.

What I am trying to tell you is that you have to do the things you love to do. Go back into your hobbies, find new ones, and do something with your life that doesn't include eating a tub of ice cream and watching sad movies. Make yourself happy and love yourself first because if you don't, then who will? Eventually you will realize that you don't need any one to make you happy.

Rule 3 - Return of the Evil Ex

Sometimes your ex will realize, while you are glowing with your bad-self, that you are irresistible and they want to fix their relationship with you- Or that is what they say. DO NOT FALL FOR IT! IT IS A TRICK! A DIRTY TRICK! Most of the time all they really want to do is lead you under their thumb and have your heart wrapped around them to warm up their cold-blooded soul. If you see yourself getting stuck with this situation and you are considering going back with them, refer to step one and two again. Remember you can never really teach an old dog new tricks and they are your ex for a reason.

I spoke to a friend of mine one time when she was thinking of getting back together with an abusive ex. He claimed he was a changed man, that he loved her, and wanted a forever with her. I seen this so many times before and I told her stay away. She didn't listen to me and what happened? She ended up with a broken heart again.

Not all exes are like this but if you remember this is about evil exes who are most of the time narcissistic. The word "Ex" means to me, an example of a bad relationship, an example of what not to date, your feelings for them are extinct while their "feelings" for you never existed.

Rule 4 - Finding, Searching and Loving

When you finally feel like it is the right time to start searching for a new relationship, be sure that the other person knows what you are looking for and be sure they are what you want. I am not talking about the way they dress or look, even though physical attraction can be important, what is inside matters most. Don't compare them to your ex, and make sure they aren't like your ex. You can do this by simply observing, and you shouldn't do it by experimenting. You most of all have to make sure that they are on the same page as you. Do you want a long term relationship or a not so serious relationship? Do they want the same?

As I always said to many people, relationships are 100/100, both sides have to give their all to each other and the relationship. It's not 50/50 and it should never be 10/90. If they aren't going to be serious with you or you them, do not be in that relationship.

But most of all, when you are in the new relationship, remember you are your own person and no one but you should change who you are, your emotions and your self worth. If you are in any point where you are truly questioning the relationship and feel bad vibes, end it. Put yourself first and don't let your heart break. In the words of Lucille Ball "Love yourself first and everything falls into line."

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So this over all sums up how I got over my bad relationship. I hope it helps you. I am not a love doctor or a professional of love at all. I am honestly just sharing the way I think is the best way to get over an evil ex.