How To End a Relationship

When is an ending considered good, and when is an ending bad? At the end of each story, it’s simply just “The End.” As impossible as it sounds, I want to make an ending as beautiful as a beginning. People say it’s painful and it’s hard, but to me, it’s not why you end a relationship; what matters most is how you end a relationship.

Before any steps are taken to end the relationship, you must first be able to maintain a stable state of mind. By maintaining your emotions, you are preventing situations that may create more regrets or more never ending ends. And when you are in a stable state of mind, you are able to listen to each other’s reasons or at least that is the last respect you can give towards each other. After preparing your mind, the next most important step is to break up in person. Breaking up in person means that you respect them and sincerely hope for the best, be it someone new or wherever their life may take them next.

The first step is when and where. Picking a good location will help set up the mood, and the best time, in my opinion, is a beautiful sunny evening. What good time then this, when you are ready to relax after a long day. Any location can be used, however, picking the location that contains the most memories would be the best place. By picking that location, your forgotten memories will be awaken and words will be endless. (End where you begin?)

The next steps will consist of first impressions, up to the positives and negatives that led both of you to this day. It may be consider a last resort to save any remaining good feelings or thoughts for each other, but that won’t necessary mean that you are trying makeup or maybe start over again. Remind them what made your mind flatter, and what made your heart skip a beat. Talk about their cute unique laughter, or the way they bite their finger nails when they are nervous. Even up to “YOLO” (you only live once) moments, like grabbing your butt in public. Next, here comes the twist, tell them the problems that occurred because of their actions. With finger nails being stuck to socks, laughing loudly like there is no one else and showing too much love, even in front of family members. In the process of letting them know what made you smile becoming something you want to avoid, refrain from pushing their pride to low. Remember to add, “but it’s OK, I got used to it.” Basically saying that the feelings you had is no longer the same anymore.

Lastly, going along with the time of day, as the sun starts to set and daylight starts fading, keep a smile, keep a good eye contact. The last gratitude someone can show is to be able to look into that person’s eyes with appreciation. To be thankful for everything that has happened, for lessons and teachings that you both gave, whether it’s helpful or not. At this point, saying “let’s break up” isn’t necessary anymore because the whole evening has already sum up your intentions. Instead, let them know that you’ll always be there if any time they are in need, and you hope that that they will find someone that will be fond of their every small things. Even at the sight of their tears, pretend you don’t see because of the darkness of the evening, save the last bit of their dignity.

There was more than enough reasons why the relationship should end, but it’s always a bitter feeling when you can’t understand the other person’s point of view and it just ends like that. There are too many unanswered questions, confused scenario as to the “what ifs” or “should have.” Where as a “when to end a relationship,” you’ve already taken the time to ask and discuss with yourself and the other person over and over again to come to this conclusion. “When” you end the relationship, it will become more of a mutual understanding and in that sense, your last greetings can end with a smile.