Marriage 101

I’ve never wrote a blog in my life, though I’ve made several attempts. I’m back at it again with determination! I’ve been searching the interwebs just to find out exactly what I would be good at writing. The only thing I’m really good at, crafting wise, is crocheting, but I’m just terrible with making my own patterns. I was laying in bed just scrolling away, lost in thought. Then a lightbulb lit up right above my head and I thought it would be an excellent idea to write about my daily experience as a married women. The ups and the downs, the forever and the always. Right now Christopher, my husband, and I have been married for eight months. We have been together for almost four years (January is four years). It’s been tough, especially when we don’t see eye to eye. For example, I wrote him a note and taped it to the entertainment stand for him to read. It stated, “there are five cookies in the fridge, eat only two. I want the rest for work. I have (such and such money) in my bank account. Yes I checked before bed. Wake me up at 9:30.” So, for starters, he woke me up at 8:30 and, when I woke up, I opened the microwave to see that out of five cookies…five…he left me one. Just one damn cookie. He said he didn’t read the whole note and that he didn’t eat that many. Where did the other two go? Did they grow legs and walk away? Cause I was asleep, I didn’t eat them. I was a little upset, but at the end of the day, they are just cookies. Delicious soft sugar cookies. I do have to give a huge shout out to my husband, though, for cleaning up the house, doing dishes, sweeping the floors, and putting my work clothes in the dryer before I leave for work. The only thing I wish was different was that he had a job and could keep a job. Life would be 100% better. We are just scraping by with what money I make and let me tell you, it’s not much. I try to get as much overtime as possible but this woman is pooped! Right now, it’s almost December shut down and, since I’m a temp, I do not get paid, so we are going like a week without having any money. We still owe the landlord a $100+ electric bill and washer and dryer rent is due to Aaron’s this month (thank God it’s our last payment). We are definitely struggling right now moneywise, since I didn’t get paid for November shut down as well. I keep wanting to save money, but I never have any to actually put back, because after rent and other bills I have a whole whopping $7.00 in my account. I never have any money to spend on me. I can never get my hair done, nails done, buy coffee, buy pants that fit me, or anything else. We are just trying to survive, but one thing I know is that at the end of the day we WILL make it through, because we have each other. No matter what happens, I have Christopher to lean on and he has me to lean on. Marriage is a team effort and we have to work together, even if it’s in different ways. No matter how many cookies he eats, I know that he would buy an entire box just to say “I'm sorry.” Everyone needs that type of man in their life.