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The Guy You Should Cut Out Of Your Life

By Vanna JamesPublished 7 years ago 3 min read
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A little advice I wish I would have had 10 years ago.. there's a certain type of guy every girl should avoid. He's a guy you will no doubt encounter in your love life, and he will have you wrapped up in his snare in 5 seconds flat. He will be attractive, but rarely act like he knows it, although he definitely knows it. His lack of self esteem is one of his many ploys. He will tell you he is lonely, he doesn't have anyone really there for him, and every girl he has dated has treated him terribly. You will notice he always plays the victim and never admits to making mistakes or being at fault when a relationship turns sour. He will go on about not wanting to have a relationship, because he just isn't ready, but he just needs a friend right now. Well it is all an act! After feeling sorry for him you will go out of your way to bring some light to his poor little life (it's just in a woman's nature to try and fix things). The two of you will talk for hours about everything, you will feel very close to him. Then comes the time when you sleep with him. Usually, it just happens. At least that's what you think. You're just watching a movie or hanging out and BAM! You are doing the naked pretzel. What you don't know is that he had planned it that way from the beginning of course. He relied on your trusting nature to feel bad for him, then feel like you've fixed him a little, then feel close enough to him to sleep with him. The next day he conveniently doesn't answer any of your text. A week later he will finally reply with a smooth, "Sorry I have been super busy" or something along those lines.

You will feel so relieved that he finally answered you that you forget all about him ignoring you for a week. Slowly, you get used to the two of you talking much less than you did before, thinking maybe he's really just getting busy and you try hard to be independent and not as clingy. About a month or two will go by and he will finally want to see you again! It will undoubtedly be last minute (because he is just so busy), and you are more than happy to drop everything to see him. And then he will repeat exactly what happened the last time you saw him. Now at this point some women realize they have been trapped in a booty call situation and will find their nearest exit, dismissing this epic douche forever (I praise those women, y'all have the killer self control I never had! #KnowYourWorth). Other women won't fair as well. They will believe the excuses, they will think they did something wrong, or they will think that he has some serious issues, and if you just stay and show him that you aren't leaving like other girls did that somehow you will fix him and one day he will marry you and you will live happily ever after! I was the last one. I thought I could prove to him that I was loyal and patient, understanding enough to be with him. After 2 years of what I now know were essentially "booty calls" and not fond memories of stolen moments in his busy life, I finally came to my senses, picked up my broken heart and found a real man that actually respected me. It will be hard to walk away, but you have to realize there just isn't anything that can make that guy see how amazing you are. (Trust me, you are amazing!) No matter how much it hurts, leave him behind so you can meet a real man with respect for women and a heart of gold that will treat you like the queen you are!

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