Sex

Okay, so today I noticed a guy make a post about women not wanting sex because of their insecurities with their bodies.

Sure some of us ladies might feel shy or awkward with our bodies, but this isn't the only reason people say no. And I'm certain there are a lot of men who feel the same way about their own bodies. But to say this is why women reject sex....Come on now!

There are so many reason why a woman can say no. Let's just check a few out that come to mind:

-If the reason is about her not feeling sexy in her own body...you need to be more sensitive and respectful of this. Maybe tell her how sexy she is to you. Make her feel beautiful! Try boosting her confidence in herself. This is a process that takes time. Be patient!

-Maybe she's just simply not in the mood at that moment. No reason behind it...it's just not there when you decide you're ready. A couple need to have that mutual chemistry to get the fire going.

-No foreplay...no attempt to get things going...no heat. Try to do things to send those goosebumps up her spine, do things to attract her to you.

-Women have this thing called a period...it might be that time of the month, and she might not want to have sex during this time. A lot of people are uncomfortable with this. Leave it alone!

-Maybe her headache is real! Maybe you're even the cause. Adding stress and pressure to the situation will not help! And no one wants to have pity sex because you pushed to the point of her giving in even though she's hurting lol

-The sex just isn't as good as you think it is. Maybe try to spice things up a bit, change it up. Try something different if it's always the same. No one likes continuous missionary position. Just sayin!

-Maybe she has issues from her past, and she still needs to heal. This is a huge deal to a lot of women. I've heard so many talk about it. With horrible things like rape, abuse, neglect etc...no wonder a lot of women (and men..it does happen to them too) are having hard time with that connection during sex. That's a hard thing to get past. Again, it's all about respect and having some patience.

-"It's not you, it's me"...maybe it is actually you. Not trying to make you feel bad but maybe there's no attraction. So many people do things around the other sex that are just not appealing (ie: burping, passing gas, looking like a hot mess..etc.). Quit it!

You can't force or pressure someone to have sex with you. If they say no, it means no! If it makes you feel better about yourself to blame the woman and her body image...then so be it. But to say that's the reason she doesn't want to have sex with you when you don't truly know the reason...that's messed up and unfair to her. Believe it or not women have a lot of things going on in their heads...this is why we can multitask so well. lol

But, sex should be mutual, should be considered a beautiful thing between 2 people, and it should be respected...whether you say yes or no. And it's that respect for the other persons decision that is also attractive.