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Signs He Isn't Into You

He Is Using You

By Denise WillisPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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I was blessed with a nice body, and looked like I was sixteen when I was only twelve. I was quite proud of my body, and the older I got, the more fixated I was on it. I was whistled at, hooted at, stared at, and all of it only made me flaunt what I had more. After four failed marriages, and several live in relationships, I can honestly say that the best body isn't always the key to happiness. So many of the men I was with were with me because I had a nice body, and when the fascination wore off, so did their interest.

It is normal for young girls and women to want to look their best, and they should take the time to look their best, but always keeping in mind that physical appearance is only superficial. It is what is inside that counts, and if any man does not think that, then he is not really interested in YOU, but only your body, or what you can do for him. There are many signs that a man is only interested in what you can give him, and not really interested in you. Here are a few.

He Puts His Friends Before You

This is a big pet peeve of mine, because I have lived it so many times. For example,the two of you have made plans for the evening, but then a good old friend calls, and suddenly he is all smiles and laughter. The minute he hangs up the call, you know by the look on his face that he is not going with you tonight, but is going to hang with his good old friend, or friends. He tries to make you feel okay about things, but you resent it inside, because nobody likes to be second best.

He Is Always Making Sexual Comments to You

All women like a compliment, and even the occasional off-color compliment about the way they look is acceptable, but it is not acceptable when a man is constantly making sexual comments, even though they sound complimentary. If all he is focused on is the next time the two of you can make love, although he wouldn't put it that nicely, then be careful. It is normal to be sexually drawn to the person you are in love with, but if there is any mutual respect, those comments will be meaningful, and not made in a rude manner, nor will they be the focus of his conversation.

He Looks at Other Women and Takes a Personal Interest

I was at a bar with my boyfriend, who I had only been living with for a few months, when he suddenly pops up with the comment that some woman on the dance floor was gorgeous. Trying not to appear jealous, I asked him to point her out to me, and he did, after which he looked at me and stated that he should be with her, not me. I felt as though the wind had been kicked out of me.

It is quite normal for a guy to look at other women, but if he does it when he is with you and makes comments that are hurtful, it is time to pull up the anchor and sail away, because it will only get worse, not better. And, if he does that, you can be sure he does not respect you, and feels you are very replaceable.

You Are the Only One Who Calls and Texts

It is fine for a woman to call or text a man, to take the lead, but if you find that you are the only one who is calling or texting, perhaps it is time to re-think the relationship. Is it one-sided? Most likely it is, and the natural instinct when it finally dawns on you that he isn't into you, is to text or call more, maybe even going so far as to question him about it. That isn't a smart way to go, because you already know the answer, and he knows you are trying to make him say it so he'll feel guilty.

He Doesn't Shower When He Knows You are Coming Over

That may sound petty, but if a man is really interested, he wants to look and smell his best when he sees you, unless he is a hopeless slob, and then you don't want him anyhow! Have you ever gone to a guy's house, anticipating a great romantic evening, and when you get there, he has not showered, is wearing his baseball cap backwards, and has the same clothes on he's worn for the past two times you saw him? He then makes an advance, and that should make you feel a bit under appreciated. He takes you for granted, especially if he knows you are always clean and showered, and smell good. Now, if you show up all sweaty from working in the garden, and it's cool with both of you, that is a totally different story.

It isn't the end of the world if the guy you like isn't into you, and more likely then not, he isn't going to suddenly change and decide you are the only thing in his life. Move on and find someone who cares for you for the person you are, not what you look like, how much money you make, or what your social status is.

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Denise Willis

I love art as much as writing, and when the world feels dark, I get out my paper and colored pencils and draw while listening to music. When my husband and I were going through a divorce, journaling is what got me through that..

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