Signs The Guy You’re Talking To Is A F*ckboy

He doesn’t let you touch his phone – red flag. His phone is always facing down – red flag. If says, “come over, let's watch Netflix” – red flag. If he texts you anytime after 10 PM – red flag. If he ghosts on you mid conversation and picks up hours later where the conversation ended without an explanation – red flag. He goes for sex right away – red flag. I’m so sorry, ladies, but it’s not what you think it is with this guy. And I know it hurts because you want to believe all the sweet nothings he tells you, but take it from someone who has chosen all the wrong fish in the sea. What I’m about to tell you are the ultimate signs of a f*ckboy.

Men work in reality. Women work in ideality. And it sucks because you are such a strong, independent woman that wants an honest, genuine man. Now I understand being alone is hard and having a man cures that. But you should never be giving 80 and getting 20. I say that because even though all things in life come with compromise, you should never feel like you’re running a marathon that never seems to end — end in a faithful relationship that is.

You want to believe that he’s busy with his personal life. That this isn’t how he really is. You don’t want to go to your friends about the same guy with the same problems because you’re afraid that you’ll really start to believe all the truth they tell you… the truth you’ve been running away from. You’ve invested weeks, if not months, into this thing you and he have. You don’t want to throw the towel in now because what if he’s finally going to ask you to be his girlfriend this weekend or has something cute planned. And besides all his damn near intolerable flaws, he’s perfect. But while you get blind sided by the idea of his perfect, there’s a better perfect.

Either you’re reading this nodding your head because you’ve been here before or feeling empty because you’re in the situation now and you don’t know what to do. Relax… This is all a learning experience. I understand that you have wants and expectations of the man you want to be with, but you can’t change anyone’s character. If he tilts his phone when you two are together so you can’t see what he’s doing – let him. If he doesn’t call you back even though he promised he would – let him. If he sweet talks his way out of the “What are we?” questions – let him. Let him do these things because he is showing you the type of person he is. Don’t fight that.

Men have self-control for something if they really want it, especially if waiting is what it’s going to take to get it. A perfect example… A guy will wait and save for three months for some Jordans then wait in line the day of for six hours to get them. But then turn around and say “you’re trippin” when he can’t have sex with you the first night. And it’s always one of two things when this happens; either he doesn’t want what you want or in his eyes you’re not worth the wait. And in either case, he’s not worth the rush.

If you ever have questions about how a guy feels about you – ask his actions, because a lot of women get caught up with guys that make them feel like the next runner up or just another girl on his team. But they don’t want to believe that because in the beginning he was telling you everything. “You’re the baddest.” “You’re wifey.” “You’re the best.” However, when they’re with these guys they start becoming inconsistent — they start making them feel average. And then she starts feeling like she needs to lose a little weight here, gain a little weight there. Stop letting these guys leave you lost in the grey area! I don’t care what the situation is, if a guy wants to be with you… have you be his girlfriend, his wife… he will. End of story.

You deserve a man that will open doors for you. You deserve a man that will call you back when he says he will. You deserve a man that won’t let you go to bed upset. You deserve a man that wants to show you off to all his friends. You deserve a man that will tell you you’re beautiful every day. You deserve a man that will text you good morning and good night. You deserve a man that plans dates with you that don’t involve Netflix. You deserve a man that’s going to run you a bath when you’ve had a bad day. You deserve a man that loves and respects you. But you can’t have that man until you let go of the boy you’re with. Until next time…