Things Women Are Expected to Justify in Relationships That Men Just Aren't

Even to this day, gender roles continue to play in relationships. These gender double standards literally haunt us and it's tough to shake off, especially when dating someone whose mindset is way off. We even see it in public and on the television. There's just certain actions that women and men are "supposed" to do in a relationship — yeah, OK.

I personally know a couple that always split the bill and help each other clean around the house. Now that is relationship goals. But then there is a couple where the woman is an actual slave to her husband. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of their baby... while he sits on his ass watching TV.

See what I mean? It's stuff like that that can tick off almost anyone — or any woman I should say. Gender roles were built from society's expectations and we were dumb enough to follow it in the past. But the past is the past and this is the 21st Century. But if your head is screwed on backwards and you think otherwise, good luck in the future.

Here are a couple of things women are expected to justify in relationships that men just aren't. Shove these facts into your head and live with it.

Making Money

There are so, so, SO many women out there who are married and have children, but want to make money. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, in fact, that's fantastic! Nothing like getting some extra money in the family to help out with bills or food shopping — saving more money in the relationship!

Oh, wait, but there are men who don't think this is a good idea at all. Why? Because they don't want their wife/girlfriend to possibly be making more than them — possibly becoming the breadwinner. Honestly, this is one of the more ridiculous things women are expected to justify in relationships. If your wife happens to be making more than you, that's seriously amazing — the two of you are getting more money! What's wrong with that?!

If the woman in the relationship wants to continue or start making money, she has every right to. Everyone needs a little extra dough in their bank account.

Paying on a Date

This is a big one — there are women out there in relationships who are always offering and willing to pay the bill. But because of gender roles, men are the ones who are supposed to pay the bill... They always think that they must pay the bills.

The women here are seriously doing the men a favor. You don't have to break your bank account on dinner for two, it'll be easier to split or give the bill to your wife/girlfriend every now and then. And pulling off this move won't ever make you look bad.

Not to mention that there are women who order the entire menu. Are you really willing to drop $100 on a single dinner? Just hand the bill to the girl.

Sex

Who cares if you're in the mood, if your girlfriend isn't, you should never beg or make her feel like she has to put out. Out of the things women are expected to justify in relationships, no woman should have to put out for her boyfriend if she'd not in the mood.

Sex is supposed to be something intimate where both partners are really involved. It won't make sense if one partner isn't having mutual feelings. So, what happens if your horny and she isn't? Handle it yourself, buddy.

Dressing Up

If you and your wife are going out to dinner and she's all dolled up, don't ever judge her choice in clothing... like ever. Yes, you are her husband and the two of you are devoted to each other, but that doesn't allow you to tell her what to wear — you'll look like a controlling freak.

It's her body, her clothes, she's able to wear what she wants. If she wants to wear shorts with fishnet stockings and pumps, she can. If she's dressed in a tight leather dress with super high stilettos, let her. End of story.

Dressing Down

Just like dressing up, your girlfriend can dress down whenever the hell she wants. Don't think that since she has you, she's able to dress in a pair of sweats with no makeup on. She's definitely not going to dress up just for you whenever you want her to, she'll dress up whenever she feels like it — one among things women are expected to justify in relationships.

So, if she's dressed down more often than up around you, you better appreciate her trust and how comfortable she is around you. It sometimes takes a girl a lot to dress down in front of her boyfriend. Plus, you should be loving her for who she is, not what she's in.

Cooking and Chores

From the list of things women are expected to justify in relationships, this is literally near the top. I know, in the past, women were the only ones taking charge of the household chores and cooking meals — but who said those gender roles still exist?

Today, there are many men who help clean around the house and even cook meals for the family. But then there are men in the relationships who refuse to touch a vacuum and expect women to do the housework... Excuse me, but women are the only ones breaking their backs to vacuum under beds. Breadwinners or not, men should always help around the house, because if they're living under the same roof, they should be committed to cleaning, too.

Having Kids

Not every woman in a relationship wants to have kids. Even if some do, most of them don't want to have kids right away. They want to enjoy their lives as a couple, rather than a family. That's totally normal, a lot of women don't intend of having kids until their mid-30s or whatever age they are.

Sure, women are the only ones carrying the baby and bringing life, but that's not what women are supposed to be devoted to throughout her life. They're not a birth machine that's supposed to pop babies every now and then — women are individuals who have options and life goals.

Out with Friends

Everyone should have some time to go out with friends — you can't be up your partner's ass each and everyday. Girls need a girls night and boys need the same, too. A break from each other is what all of us need.

However, when your girlfriend/wife heads out for the night with her friends, she's literally going out to spend time with her gal pals — things women are expected to justify in relationships. Don't assume and jump to conclusions that she's using this excuse to hook up with someone — that's usually not the case.

And when a girl has a boyfriend, she shouldn't be tied down to just hanging out with him — it can get so boring. Everyone needs new, fresh faces to hang around with.

Anger

From the things women are expected to justify in relationships, allow me to make this super clear for all the clueless, ignorant men out there who keep assuming that a woman's anger is linked to her hormones — it isn't! You think without hormones that women cannot be angry, and when she is it's the work of the hormones? If you're just realizing this, congrats on being one of the stupidest individuals roaming earth.

But in all seriousness, a woman's anger is almost never the work of her hormones. She's probably mad, because you pulled off a idiotic move that you shouldn't have pulled off. And DON'T ask her if she's on her period the second she's done yelling, I guarantee you won't see daylight anymore.

Number of Partners

If your concerned or even repulsed by the amount of partners your girlfriend was with, you seriously have no right to.

We live in a society where men can have multiple partners and never be judged for it, but when a women had a couple of boyfriends in the past... she's the ultimate slut. Why is that? No explanation — she's just a slut. Makes sense, I know...

From the things women are expected to justify in relationships, no one should judge a women by the amount of partners she's had. We move on from person to person hoping for a permanent relationship. And if a woman doesn't even want a permanent relationship and enjoys moving from one partner to another, that's her life, her choice and she'll do it however she pleases.

If a man can hook up with ten people in a couple of days and not be criticized for it, why can't a women do the same and not be looked down upon?