To Rent or To Own

I’ve learned a lot over the past few years, you can’t just let people run in and out of your life. That’s letting them continuously take from you with nothing in return. Now as females when it comes to relationships, we are very guilty. We let men come into our lives, asking what can we bring to a broken table. So, here’s a scenario my granddad told me that I want you to think about; and the big question is, “Are you to RENT or to own?”

He said being in a relationship with a guy is like having a car. So, with a rental car you take care of it but not like it’s your own personal car. First you test drive it, then you take it off the lot for a couple of days. In those couple of days, you have already eaten in the car, dirty the car up, pushed on the gas real hard, showed it off like it was yours, and drove the car until the tank is on E. Then after your weekend of fun is over you take that car back to the lot and the next weekend you go and do the same thing again just with a different car. Well that’s how it is with some guys, they treat you as women like a rental car.

They take you off the lot and they lie, cheat, show you off when they feel like it, take all your money and time. So just when your gas tank is on E and you’re so close to being done with him; he takes you back and go find someone else he can use and abuse. I know some men might say well I do that to my personal car too but it’s a difference. I say this because yeah you probably do eat in the car, dirty it up a little, pushed on the gas real hard, showed it off, and drive your car until the tank is on E. But if anything happens to your personal car it’s like the world just came to an end, however a rental on the other hand you can take it back to the company and just say something is wrong with the car and walk away with no worries.

It’s the same way with women. If you’re really committed to a certain female, you are going to be worried about her wellbeing but if you not with this female and you just “renting” her for the moment then you don’t really care about her wellbeing. You’re just with her for the moment, nothing more and nothing less. BUT ladies at the same time your character and your boundaries are what defines you and separates you from others.

In Proverbs 18:22 it says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” So like Pastor John Gary said, “You’re not his wife because he married you, you’re his wife because he found you.” Yeah you got married and became his wife... but a wife is not the presence of a ring, it’s the presence of your character. Too many of you ladies want to be married but are still walking in the spirit of a girlfriend. Once you ask God to remove that spirit and you start carrying yourself like you are taken, a husband will find you but if you keep walking like a girlfriend, boys will continue to play with you! So, ask yourself are you to RENT or to OWN?