To The Girl Who Loves "Too Much" and "Too Hard"

I need you to know that your love isn’t too much. It has never been nor will it. Anyone that has ever told you it is doesn’t deserve you.

It’s only too much for someone who doesn’t know what to do with it. There’s no such thing as loving too hard or loving too much. Because someone that loves you wants your love, all of it.

Never allow someone to make you question yourself. Never allow someone to tell you who you are or how to love. Never allow someone to criticize your big heart like it’s a curse. Having a big heart just means that you love harder than most. You love in a way that most people want to but are scared to. A deeper way.

You're loving someone more than they love themselves. More than they think they deserve to be loved.

Someone who tells you that your incredible love is too much is scared or intimidated by your love. They’re scared that it won’t last. It’s too good to be true. They’re scared that they’ll never be able to reciprocate your intense love. They’re scared because no one has ever shown them a love like yours. No one has ever loved them as much as you do. It simply might be that you love them more than they love themselves. And that makes people feel uncomfortable and insecure.

It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

Too much love is never a bad thing. If someone’s making it a bad thing, you should be asking yourself why they’re making a good thing a bad thing. Too much love scares some people, but that doesn’t mean that your love is too much. It doesn't mean it's wrong. It’s easy to think it’s your problem and you need to fix it, but it isn’t. It’s theirs. How someone acts in a relationship is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves. You can’t ever allow someone's problems and insecurities to make you question yourself. Anyone who makes you question your self-worth and who you are isn't someone you should want.

Someone who doesn’t appreciate your love is someone who doesn’t deserve it. Someone who won't appreciate you.

Just because your love might be "too much" for one person doesn’t mean it’s too much for another. If you love someone, you should be able to love them how you want. You shouldn’t have to worry about being judged for the way you’re choosing to show your love. You shouldn’t have to worry it’s too much.

Love isn’t a half assed action, it’s a wholehearted action.

As hard as it may be to face, no matter how hard you love someone if it isn’t mean to be and it isn’t meant to last, no amount of love will make a difference. You can’t make someone love you even if you love them in all the ways you know how to. You shouldn't want someone to love you for someone that you're not. Someone that you sacrificed a part of yourself to become just so they would love you. Because that kind of love never lasts. An artificial love, not a real love. An earned love that makes you feel like it isn't free. A temporary feeling that will pass just as fast as it came.

All the effort and love that you are capable of giving won’t mean anything to the wrong person.

You're trying to get someone to see your worth. You're trying to prove it to them with your love. You want think that if they see your worth it that they will love you the same. They will put in the same effort and care that you do. Babe, you can't make someone see your worth. If someone perceives your love as too much that isn't someone you can justify your love or change their opinion. And you shouldn't have to.

Your worth isn't something you should ever have to prove to anyone.

The love you’re looking for isn’t wrong. The love you give isn’t wrong. Both are real. Neither are too much. Your love is the best kind.

You deserve to receive a love like the love you give. It’s just not everyone is capable of that. Not everyone has as big of a heart as you do. You’re looking for love in the wrong person. Someone that thinks you're too hard. That you take too much effort. Someone incapable of seeing your heart and your worth. You’re looking for it in someone that thinks you’re “too much.”

You’re not wrong to expect the kind of love you give. You’re wrong to accept anything less.

If someone ever tells you that you love too much or too hard, listen to them. They’re telling you that they don’t deserve you. They’re telling you that they will never be able to reciprocate the love that you give, the love that you deserve. Them saying your love is too much has nothing to do with you. If anyone ever says you're too much of anything, you'll never be good enough for them. And you can't let their opinion of you affect your view of what you're worth.

You determine your worth, not anyone else. When you know who you are, you don't care what anyone else says or thinks. The only opinion that matters is what you think about yourself.

No matter what you go through and what people say to you, don’t stop showing the love that’s in your heart. Don’t change the way you show love just because of people that were incapable of accepting your love. People that didn't deserve your love. Don’t stop because people hurt you and took advantage of your love. Just don’t love people who don’t deserve your love. Don't show your heart to people who don't appreciate it. Love those who love you.

With a love as pure as yours, don’t let it get tarnished. Protect it from people who don’t know how to. Continue to wear your heart on your sleeve, but don’t roll it up for everyone. The world needs people like you. The people that put the human back in humanity. The people that remind us that love still exist. Diamonds in a sea of cubic zirconias.

People with big hearts who love like they’ve never felt pain. People who have been hurt and still choose to love. Please don’t allow the people that didn’t appreciate your love to change the way you love. Don’t allow your pain to lessen your love. I know it’s hard. But, I know you're stronger.

Because someone capable of loving harder is also capable of enduring more because your heart is put through more. It can handle more and come out stronger.

It's tough having such a loving heart in a world of hardened hearts. You don’t want to get hurt again and you just want to protect yourself. You think it would be easier that way. Not showing your heart, your love. But, you can’t be afraid to love again. You can’t lose hope. Don’t stop loving the way you love.

The love you are capable of giving the kind of love that most don’t even know exists.

People like you teach others how to love. How to truly love someone. Because some people need to be taught. Your heart is the reason there’s still hope for humanity. The right person will never make you question your love because they’ll love you in the same way. They’ll provide you with the love that you deserve, not the kind you settle for. Your love will never be too much because they won’t ever be able to get enough.

With a love as extraordinary as yours, don’t allow yourself to settle for a mediocre one.

It’s better to love with no regrets than to love with reservations.

“With a heart like that, you deserve the world.”

-r.h. Sin