What's Next After a Breakup?

So, the relationship is finally over. Who knew it was this easy? No pain and no tears, yet. I think breakups are much easier if it was "mutual" or if one person lies and agrees that this is the best decision thus making this supposed-to-be sad ordeal worth it. After all, you guys haven't even talked about the future or indicted that there was one. He wanted endless sex with little to no regular conversation, and the exchange of gifts only on holidays; family visits were totally off limits, except for that one time his mom (who has a key his bro-pad) walked in on you giving his morning wood a kiss, he had no choice but to introduce you. You wanted marriage, kids, and trips around the world with the one person you held so close to your heart.

No turning back now, though; you're not into the Hollywood aspect of "break up to make up," so once you're done, thats it. He's got a new girl anyway, some Insta-model; she's the type that makes you regret eating breakfast in the morning. Your emotions are everywhere; are you upset? Is your heart broken? Should you cry? Maybe even have one of those ridiculous "girls' nights out"? One hookup with a random would probably help. You do what you have to do.

You look up and it's six months since the breakup, and you're still coming home to late night Netflix and boring weekends, no Tinder likes and definitely no hookups.

You start to wonder what's wrong with you. Why can't you move on, why is his life doing so well? You know everything about his next move because you stalk him to no ends of the earth; Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, and even Facebook. You're looking for answers, not answers on why you'd rather stay home on a Friday night instead of going out with that one chick from across the hall who wears bright colors no matter the season, who for some reason never has a guy over and never talks about a significant other at all. No, a fun party doesn't sound valuable enough for your night, you'd rather watch him have a good time on his social media and shed just a few tears wishing instead of her it'd be you he's taking candids of. See, the answer to all of your questions and your deep worries of when you'll be able to move on is actually attached to that overconfident girl across the hall. She has no significant other yet she's happy because she isn't lonely, she's alone. For some odd reason we seem to think that in order for one to be happy they have to have a boatload of friends, a partner, and go out every weekend; the people that don't live up to those standards are pitiful and sad. Being lonely is real, when you have friends but none of them are actually around when you need them or when you're feeling sad and there's no one to talk to. Being alone is by choice, and shouldn't consist of complaining.

If you want to move on, then do that. Don't stay in just to watch his snaps or stalk his pages. Get up, get cute, and keep going. You'll never find the next if your still hung up on the EX. Spend time with yourself, enjoy your own company, and have fun. Delete and block the EX and his super hot chick, never look back on what wasn't meant to be. It's over for a reason.