You Would Think I Learn the First Time

We’ve all been in love at some point or another. Real actually love from a person that is accepting of who you are, and the burdens that you may or may not have on yourself. These days now it is not easy to find someone that is truly accepting of you. It seems there is more of judging than taking in the person for who they are. Love… seems more fake now than ever. The word “Love” gets flung all over the place without meaning it. It can be used to manipulate, abuse emotional and mentally, and take advantage of others because they were naïve to think about what the person is doing to them. It is unfortunate to believe but it is true. If there was an answer as to why that is… I would like to know myself. I guess what lead me to say that is because I look at what I have been through, and what I have seen through my relationships and others. The most common thing I see happen is loving more than one person, it is very possible to do so, but does it work out to love two people at once? It’s possible, but who are they hurting in the end? Themselves that is wanting to be with two people or the ones that are head over heels for them and can’t bear to see them with someone else.

There is an issue when someone wants to love more than one person. Especially when it is with someone that doesn’t want anyone else to interfere with their relationship. Though, it happens, and we all like to call it cheating. Cheating can be the most destructive thing that anyone can do to another human being. It is not a good feeling to know that the person that you loved didn’t felt the same as you did. They loved you, but they also love another maybe a little more. Can we really know why that happens? We might. We might not. We say we were unhappy with our current partner. We say they treated us like shit. We say that they did not pay attention to us. We say a lot of things, but are they all actually true? What if we were happy with our current partner and was just afraid to commit to them. What if they did not treat us like shit but treated us like we were the best thing in the world. Though, we were too worried that it was going to fade away and you weren’t going to get that same treatment. What if they did give us all the attention and maybe you felt that it was going to disappear because they got “use to you.”

All these things… All these what ifs… these what if’s causes people to do the most unfaithful things to another…. These what ifs are fears. Fears of losing something that there is no control over. The what ifs are the things that makes us overthink and become more scared of losing someone that might leave in the end because of the actions we took to cause them to leave because we couldn’t get over the what ifs.

On the other hand…. The roles could be different too. The one who can’t stop overthinking about the what ifs, is the one that will drive their partner away. The fear is what makes us lose in the end.