I wish I would have read signs of verbal abusive before I got married, it would have saved me from so much heartache and so much pain. Words can hurt a person more then anyone knows cause it stays with you forever. It leaves a scar in your mind and heart forever. So I want to be able to help those in a place I wish I would have known sooner. Maybe getting it across can help those in need feel like they are not alone. You are someone and you are beautiful no matter what!! So here are 10 signs you need to know and are aware of so you recognize that you may be in a verbally abusive relationship.
They are suspicious of everything you do.
He controls you on how to act, sleep, clean, and cook. It’s either you do it this way or he starts yelling at you that you did it wrong. He also controls the money on what to spend it not.
He calls you bad names.
He starts calling you names, telling you that you are no good for nothing. You're ugly, you can’t cook, and things that he knows will hurt you, so he keeps on calling you them to stay in control of you.
He's jealous all the time.
He’s jealous of your friends, mother, and family. He doesn’t want you to have friends over cause he wants to keep you to himself.
He is suspicious of everything you do.
He thinks that some other man was in your house, thinking you're cheating. Thinking you're talking behind his back.
He monitors your activities.
He monitors everything you're doing. Emails, texting, and calls. It feels somewhat like you're a person locked up, or like a child that your mom and dad knows is up to no good.
He treats you like a child.
He tells you what do and he yells at you like a child.
You have to ask permission to do anything.
This a sign of an abuser. He has to know where you are all the time. You have to ask him permission for things or to go places.
He kills your dreams.
As if we can control what we dream, but if he dreams of you cheating he will accuse of you cheating in real life. He will start using that on you. If you dream of him doing something he will laugh and make jokes in ways in which hurt your feelings.
They are making you feel worthless.
It never fails that they will make you feel unwanted, and this is where your depression gets worse, when they make you feel this way.
You lie to your family.
You start to tell your family you're okay, but in reality you're truly not, the verbal abuse and the depression are starting to get to you. You stick up for him because he already made sure you let people know he is a good guy when truly he is not.
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You are never alone, you are someone remember that. You have a voice, you can walk away from all this.
If you need help here are some numbers to contact ASAP.
For crisis and counseling services, call National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787-3225. They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year to provide confidential crisis intervention.