10 Ways Narcissists Subconsciously Change You

Narcissists are notorious for disguising their pasts and putting all the blame on their ex.

Narcissists Bait and Switch Up

If you are dealing with a covert narcissist you will be swept off your feet. A narcissist makes you feel like you're the only person in the world. They’ll say, "I can't stop thinking about you," and later use that as a justification for their controlling behavior and paranoia.

They also start talking about "the future" early on—in a vague way, where you can't pin down any details, but somehow they seem 100 percent sure that you'll have grandkids together someday.

They are great at dangling the future in front of you, tricking you into committing your energy by making you believe they're in it for the long haul.

Don't be fooled by the love-bombing narcissists use to 'shock and awe' you into complete and total submission. They often go to great lengths and grand gestures to impress and disarm you.

If someone or something seems too good to be true, it is. Your intuition will give you signs if you take the time to listen. Don't fall for the stories you hear just for the sake of being taken.

Ask yourself how do you feel when you're in their presence. If they make a slick comment or puts you down in a passive-aggressive way, it's not all in your head. The moment your body tells you something is wrong, listen to that inner voice and get out.

10 Ways Narcissists Change You

If you're dating a narcissist and it has gotten serious, there will be some things about you that will definitely change. You apparently won't see it initially but everyone and I mean everyone on the outside looking in will see it. So don't take their concern for granted, they're just looking out for your well being.

Here's a list of ten things to look for that they do NOT want for you..

1. No friends: so they become your only go to. You'll slowly get rid of those you're close to, not on purpose but because you won't have time for anyone else, which is done purposely.
2. Won't be able to enjoy intimacy: you will begin to feel used or it'll be forced upon you whenever they want it and will disappear for weeks or months and out of the blue. They'll ask if you're being intimate with anyone since it's all they actually care about. Not you!
3. Sharing your dreams: Your dreams will be pushed to the back. They will not support YOUR goals or appear happy for you. They may even laugh or try to talk you out if it.
4. Find the Truth: They will convince you with lie after lie to cover up the lies they've told, yet somehow manage to have you believe they're telling the truth this time.
5. Have friends of the opposite sex: They see you as property. You belong to them and no one else. Even if you find out that they aren't as serious as you about the relationship, they see everyone as a threat but will never admit it.
6. Have peace of mind: They will shake, rattle and roll your mind to the core with their wishy-washy behavior. They check in and out of the relationship like it's a hobby!
7. Be comforted: They are uncomfortable with expressing loving emotions towards others. They will never hesitate to show negative emotions towards anyone who they feels deserves it.
8. Reach your true potential: They will hold you back from reaching your dreams and achieving your aspirations even if they say they stand behind you. They secretly hope for the worst or that you don't succeed.
9. Stand on your own two feet: They want you to need them. They won't allow you to work or use a car because they love to control. They'd rather pick you up or go with you to outings to ensure you come back with them.
10. Tell the Truth: If you disclose how they treat you behind doors, they'll make you wish you hadn't. Yelling, being abusive, or putting on a show by embarrassing you in front of others.

Staying Longer Than Necessary

You're definitely not alone; a lot of us overanalyze. You may have even witnessed some sketchy red flags and told yourself, "This time it is different: he’s not that type of person." Most resort to common rationalizations, such as, "He doesn’t mean to hurt me," "He is really sorry afterward," "It was my fault," and, "He can be really sweet and gentle." Sounds familiar, huh?

This is definitely a sign that you should not stick around. Instead, learn to love yourself more than settling for mediocre love and anything less than what you deserve. You should get back the 100 percent that you selflessly give out. Anyone who can't comply with that, you shouldn't give them the time of day. You have to know and believe that you deserve the best because you are willing to be the best for someone else.

How to Outsmart Their Mind Control

They are better adept to manipulate you when they acquire enough to control you.

This skillful tactic becomes extremely dangerous when they become well aware of your weaknesses.

It's easy and effortless for them to play mind games on you.

The best advice is to know your worth and entertain those who are only into getting to know you physically. If you can hold out for a while, then do it. The longer you hold out the easier you will see them express their true intentions.