Humans is powered by Vocal.
Vocal is a platform that provides storytelling tools and engaged communities for writers, musicians, filmmakers, podcasters, and other creators to get discovered and fund their creativity.
How does Vocal work?
Creators share their stories on Vocal’s communities. In return, creators earn money when they are tipped and when their stories are read.
How do I join Vocal?
Vocal welcomes creators of all shapes and sizes. Join for free and start creating.
To learn more about Vocal, visit our resources.Show less
Once upon a time, your partner made you feel butterflies in your stomach. Every time you saw them, you’d get that wild adrenaline rush people talk about in romance novels. You two ended up spending years together, and soon, those butterflies faded into the background. Then, your relationship felt like a nice, mellow contentment.
Eventually, that contentment remained nice, but started to get boring. You two had a routine that was comfortable, but not exciting. Eventually, your relationship started to just feel dull. You don’t talk about anything anymore, simply because you’ve talked about it all before. You don’t try new things, you both just sit there.
Sound familiar? If it does, you already know the gripping ennui that it causes. You know you need to get that spark back, but how? You might have even looked at upscale sex toys like ZALO’s before, but felt like you wouldn’t know how to broach the subject with your partner.
You don’t have to let your relationship fall to the grips of boredom if you don’t want it to die out. Here are some awesome ways to add some more fire to your love life.
Try something new with your partner.
The easiest way to regain an interest in your partner is to start interrupting your routine by adding a new element to your date night. Studies have shown that trying something new with your partner can help you remember why you fell in love with them in the first place. Besides, it also helps you make new memories and break out of your rut.
Studies have shown that even trying new platonic activities like watercoloring, surfing, or playing chess during date night can help keep excitement in the relationship and maintain sexual attraction in the long term.
Have an honest talk about fantasies with your partner.
Sometimes, the easiest way to add new fun to an old relationship is to talk about the fantasies you have with your partner. Whether it’s something like trying a new sex position, a threesome, or just experimenting with sex toys for the first time, it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you both try it out—or at least talk about it.
Give a sexy gift to your partner.
In many cases, bored couples stop trying to do new things in bed. If you’ve been feeling bored in the bedroom, gifting something like an elegant sex toy might be what the doctor ordered. If you aren’t sure what to get, try an all-purpose sex toy like ZALO’s Queen, which offers both G-spot and clitoral pleasure in one beautifully presented package.
Remind yourself why you love your partner once a day.
The most common reason why partners get bored with each other is because they start to take each other for granted. Take a good look at your partner and remember why you fell for them. Do this once a day, and you’re unlikely to feel bored.
Take time out of your day for your partner.
It’s so easy to forget to pay attention to your partner during your typical day-to-day routine. The kids need to be fed, you need to work, there are dishes in the sink… and all of a sudden, you forgot to spend time with your partner. Too many moments of “forgetting,” and you’ll probably notice that your partner no longer has an interest in you.
By taking time out of your day to just cherish your partner or even hiring a sitter once a week as you go out for a date, you keep that spark alive and remind your partner of the romantic side you might have forgotten.
Book a second (or third) honeymoon.
When was the last time you spent a weekend alone together? Was it during your honeymoon? Was that the last time you played with rabbit vibrators, G-spot vibrators, or other luxury adult toys together?
If so, it may be time to reignite the spark by grabbing your partner for another honeymoon. After all, honeymoons were originally meant to help the couple get to know one another. Maybe it’s time to grab your partner and head to a romantic destination for some quality time and a brief reintroduction. Wouldn’t that be nice?
Do something totally out of character (and totally sexy) together.
An easy way to add more thrills to your relationship is to try something a bit more extreme than what you’re used to. This is doubly true if you have been feeling like your sex life could use a bit more action. Hitting up clubs while wearing music-activated vibrators, for example, will definitely lead to serious thrills for the both of you.
Make a point of touching one another.
Touch is one of the easiest ways to bond with a romantic partner, and it’s something that we often overlook when trying to reignite a lost spark. Hold each others’ hands. Give your partner a back rub. Touch helps people feel close to each other and also helps the body release oxytocin, a well-known “love” chemical.
Pretend that you’re just starting to date.
Most people, once they have been with someone for a while, stop putting in the same amount of effort they did when they were first courting that person. You might have stopped sending flowers to them, given up on cooking nice meals, or just stopped wearing makeup on dates. Putting in the same amount of effort that you once did can make a world of difference in your relationship.
Consider going to couples’ workshops for some guidance.
In many cases, people only begin to realize how bad the boredom has gotten by the time that their relationship is in jeopardy. If this seems to be the case with you, it may be time to consider signing up for a couples’ workshop. Couples’ workshops are designed to help you overcome relationship difficulties while also rediscovering what made you two fall in love.
Remind your partner that you appreciate them.
With relationships, it’s often the little things that matter the most. Many relationships start to see their passion fade when partners start acting like being in a relationship is a “given.” Sadly, a rule of life is that things that are taken for granted tend to be taken away. In the case of relationships, this tends to mean that partners who are taken for granted may become bored, frustrated, or just uninterested in keeping the relationship alive.
If you want to reignite the spark, or keep it alive, show gratitude for all the little things your partner does. Something as simple as saying “thank you,” buying them a bouquet of flowers because they do so much for you, or even just sending them a card once in a while can make a world of difference.
Don’t make things harder for your partner.
It’s shocking how many couples fall apart because one couple just felt too overworked because of all the little things that piled up over the course of their relationship. People often forget that work tends to intensify when you’re living with someone—and that much of the work people do in terms of cleaning up after a partner tends to go unnoticed.
It’s oh, so easy to feel content with just letting your partner pick up after you, but that’s not necessarily a good way to help keep your relationship intact. Things like leaving dirty dishes in the sink, not putting away your clothing, and even leaving the bed unmade can wear out your partner.
Clean up after yourself, and you’ll significantly reduce the amount of chore-related stress your partner has. With less chore stress throughout the day, your partner will feel more at ease—and more capable of feeling the spark the two of you once had.
Never stop surprising your partner.
It’s hard to remain bored with a relationship when your partner is always throwing you for a loop. If you want to add some sensual excitement, surprise your partner with a gift or a new trick in the bedroom. Whether it’s using ZALO’s Queen on them while they’re blindfolded, or just surprising them with a foot rub, it’ll be a surefire way to keep them guessing in the most passionate way possible.