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15 Simple Tips and Secrets for a Long and Healthy Marriage

Discover the secret to a successful marriage with your life partner.

By Silena Le BeauPublished 5 years ago 5 min read
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The key to developing a successful marriage is the realization that it doesn't take hard work to keep a relationship happy or stable over time.

Whether or not you're a newlywed couple, or you have been married for ten years, wouldn’t you like to know the secret sauce to a happy and long-lasting marriage?

Are you ready to become one of those happily married couples who have aced the art of leading a happy relationship?

Read below as we unveil the secret to having a successful marriage that will help you problem-solve the marital issues, and boost up your marriage life, so that it doesn't fall into pieces.

What does marriage symbolize?

At its core, marriage is a symbol of unconditional love. It is a decision to be committed to another person.

What Is The True Meaning of Marriage?

Marriage is about much more than having a lasting relationship. It is undoubtedly a commitment of two people to one another, and to each other's families, solidified by the union of holy matrimony.

In order to experience true happiness in any relationship, we must be happy first. This is, in fact, the key to having and maintaining a successful relationship.

What Does It Mean To Be Happily Married?

Someone who is in a happy marriage is perfectly happy with what they've got, rather than expecting their marriage to be a certain way. You are proud to be with your partner, and relish in the fact that you get to spend eternity with them. You smile at the mere thought that this is the person that you've chosen to spend forever with, and couldn't be happier with your choice. And you would do it all over again in a heartbeat if you had to.

Waking up to the love of your life is a feeling that could take many words, phrases, and hours to describe, but it's a genuine feeling that lives deep within the soul.

Tips And Secrets To a Successful Marriage

In order to have a successful relationship, both partners must make it a priority to constantly take care of each other's wants, needs, feelings, and emotions. As well as consciously avoiding long periods of distance, and balancing non-communication.

Periodically, you may find that there are times when you both may need to increase romance more than usual. Ensuring that the bond and connection is as strong as it was at the beginning of your relationship is pivotal in the success of your union.

There will undoubtedly be periods where there will be stress, anxiety, boredom, tension, and poor communication, which are part of the course. But if it's important to you and your partner, then coming together on one accord is a no brainer.

What you can do is...

  • Watch your words (think before you speak, Some things can't be taken back).
  • Remind your partner (and yourself) how much you appreciate them.
  • Take care of your appearance.
  • Have a "growth mind-set" (think in terms of the future).
  • Say thank you for the little things.
  • Practice honesty, even when you're ashamed.
  • Let go of perfectionism (your partner isn't perfect, and neither are you).
  • Say "appreciations" often before going to bed.
  • Practice forgiveness (not just forgiving your spouse, but forgiving yourself too).
  • Foster relationships outside your marriage.
  • Remember: Men want respect, and women want to be cherished.

What A Healthy Marriage Entails!

There are many undeniable factors that contribute to a successful marriage such as these 15 listed below...

  • Love
  • Commitment
  • Trust
  • Honesty

  • Respect

  • Openness

  • Time
  • Attention
  • Good Communication
  • Listening
  • Sexual Faithfulness.
  • Tolerance
  • Patience
  • Consideration
  • Willingness to Compromise

Marriage Is Not A Job But It Takes Work

When I first got married to the love of my life, everything was just sweet as a peach. No arguments or anything serious occurred for a long while. Five years into our marriage we had become business partners, and had a beautiful family together. Not to mention chemistry that was through the roof since day one.

Then one day, something changed. There was a breakdown in communication. My husband was in a position of wanting to provide more as the head of the household to support our family, and live a lot less like-average, and more than comfortably. So we decided to move to another state, and as soon as we did it was like magic. He found an amazing job with outstanding pay that was substantially higher than what he'd imagined to find on such short notice. Our business expanded, and we found the perfect location. We found a beautiful house to live in while we searched to buy our very first home. The kids were flourishing in great schools, and the love grew stronger as we crossed those hurdles that couldn't break our undeniable bond.

Independence vs Being Dependent

Believe it or not, independence is rated ‘extremely important’ in a marriage, and for very good reason.

When we are dependent on our significant other, it weakens our resolve and ability to move forward as free thinkers, and forces us to rely on ourselves to navigate through things without being codependent on someone else.

In order to be happy in a relationship, we must be happy first. That is, in fact, the key to a successful relationship.

With that being said, life partners must continue to take out time for themselves, enjoy their personal hobbies, and in general, spend some time apart.

Not only does absence make it difficult for a moment, but it also makes the heart grow fonder. In the time we spend alone, we are able to re-establish our sense of self, reunite with our spiritual side, and check in with the progress of our personal preferences, achievements, and goals outside of our partner. This holds us accountable for taking care of our endeavors.

When we possess the ability to maintain our independent sense of self, we will always have something to discuss at the dinner table, and we are forever stronger, healthier, and more attractive to our life partners.

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About the Creator

Silena Le Beau

She expresses her gift of writing through each piece. She studied writing in college and has been inspiring people for 20 years. She gives back to the community & enriches them with enlightenment. Philanthropist, Empath and Nature lover.

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