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We have all had at least one terrible relationship in our time. There's nothing wrong with that; it's a fact of life that not every relationship we have is going to be good. But what is wrong is staying in a bad relationship longer than you should because you either can't see that you are in a bad relationship or you don't know how to move on.
But sometimes you can get pretty involved in a relationship before you realize that it definitely isn't the one for you. But there are signs to look out for to help you identify if you are in a bad relationship.
There Is Any Kind of Abuse
I will start with an obvious one: No kind of abuse or control is acceptable in a relationship. There are no exceptions. It doesn't matter what kind of abuse it is—emotional, physical, financial, or anything else. If there is any kind of abuse or attempt at control, then you need to leave the relationship as soon as you can. Look for a safe place to go and don't look back.
There Is Cheating
This includes you. If you are cheating on your partner, then you are in the wrong relationship. If you wanted to be with them and only them, that is what you would do. Don't make excuses for yourself and pretend that you are really in love with more than one person. You couldn't do that to one person if you were genuinely in love with them, and if you want to sleep around, don't be in a relationship. Don't drag anyone else down with you.
If they are cheating on you then you need to open your eyes and realize that they don't care about you as much as you care about them and they don't love you because they couldn't cheat if they did. People in a normal and healthy relationship don't cheat on each other.
You Do Everything
It doesn't matter what type of relationship you are in; gay, straight, monogamous, poly- amorous, or anything in between—no single person should be doing everything in the relationship. So many people complain of having a lazy partner and that they have to do all of the work, and this should never be the case.
Things should be split in a fair way that makes sense for the relationship. If one person is doing everything and the other(s) doesn't put any effort in, this is a really one-sided relationship that not everyone wants to be in.
And this isn't just about house work, this covers everything, including things to do with the relationship. If you find yourself being the only one planning things for the two (or more) of you, then this might not be the right relationship for you.
You don't talk. Ever.
Not everyone is touchy-feely and wants to talk about their emotions all the time, and that's fine, but if you have just generally stopped talking about anything and struggle to find things to start a conversation about, you might be in some trouble.
Communication is essential for a normal, healthy relationship.
There Is General Dishonesty
There are some things that you don't need to tell your partner. Nobody needs to know absolutely everything that happened in your past. It's okay to take some thoughts and feelings to the grave, but if you are lying to your partner on a regular basis and keeping things from them that will have an impact on their lives, then you need to rethink things.
Know your worth.
If any of these apply to you or your relationship, then just take a minute to evaluate. Think about whether you are happy and getting what you deserve. It's important to know what you are worth and that you deserve to be happy.