5 Signs You Still Have Feelings for an Ex/past Dating Relationship

This story is coming from someone who it took a good six years to get over an EX-boyfriend.

I know you're probably thinking, "Wow, that's so pathetic..." How did it take you six years? SIX YEARS though?

To my defense, within those six years, we kept in contact on a semi-regular basis and would have our times where we would see each other/flirt/hangout, etc. It wasn't a complete, oh I'm going to cut you off and never speak to you again type of situation.

I'll give you the backstory about my journey to this point in five points.

• We met in undergrad.
• We became friends, good friends in fact.
• We fell in love. Became my first love.
• We had problems. Broke up.
• Reconnected and stopped talking (On and Off=Cycle of Confusion).

So you see, it's not so bad as it seems. But you know what is sad, being in denial about your feelings when you know deep, deep down inside, you're lying to yourself about how you really feel.

If you were like me, and you've told everyone that you're over that person, you're free of them, wiped your hands clean, and all of the rest of those sayings. Read on for my five signs that you still have feelings for that person and are living in the land of DENIAL.

Sign #1:

You're reading this post in hopes that you will not identify with any of the signs I will mention.

Sign #2:

When talking with someone (a friend, family member, etc.) you find any way to bring their name up in the conversation. This is something that I used to do a lot with one of my friends.

Sign #3:

You tell yourself that you are over them and if they happen to reach out to you with that "hey stranger" text, you will hit that delete button. *So you're telling me, that if they texted you right this minute, a big smile wouldn't spread across your face and you wouldn't start typing your reply? (Be honest!)

Sign #4:

You still check their social media pages to see if there is anyone new (boyfriend/girlfriend) in their life. Although to be perfectly honest, it's really none of your business.

Sign #5:

You say that you no longer have feelings for this person, but if they appeared at your front door this instant asking for another chance, would you happily accept? Or slam the door in their face?

So what's the verdict? How do you really feel? This is in no way to say that something is wrong with you for still having those feelings. Just keep in mind that exploring those feelings and reflecting on why you have them is extremely important. When you can acknowledge your feelings, it will help you on your journey to healing.

Stay blessed.

xo Chelle.