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5 Things To Do After Being Ghosted

Let's maintain some dignity...

By Yesenia AriasPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Photo by: Kylah Benes-Trapp

If you don't already know, ghosting is one of the worst new ways our generation of millennials has come up with to handle "breakups". Now most people write about being ghosted after a short dating period with a new flame. I am here to tell you it happens even when you're well past the "new fling" stage. For privacy purposes I shall name Fuckboi#478 John.

John and I were set up by a mutual friend for a very casual arrangement. We clearly enjoyed each others company more than we had planned because after the first month we started seeing each other everyday for solo sessions rather than in groups. And we are talking sleeping over, bringing change of clothes, showering here, spending time with my kids. We called upon each other for everything for a while. Like an old married couple had our TV lineup and all.

After six months of this he picked me up from the airport, we spent the night together, he asked if it was okay to leave some of his clothes I'd washed in the drawer and poof – Like magic he was gone. That was the last time I saw him. I was confused, my ego was bruised and heart broken. Luckily for you I made all the mistakes you could make after being ghosted. Now I've compiled a simple 5 step process that will maintain both your happiness and dignity.

Delete. Delete. Delete.

Sweetness, don't torture yourself. Starring at his Instagram and stalking every new female who likes his photos or leaves a comment will literally drive you insane. Now that you know he does not want to pursue anything with you why do you want to keep looking at him? It does nothing but make you more upset. He is NOT looking at your page. As the old saying goes "Out of sight out of mind".

Busy Bee

Now that you are no longer clearing your free time for mister man you can now put all your energy into you. Yes, you. That person you put in the back seat to make everyone else happy. Throw yourself into something productive. Whether it be work, school, a passion of yours that you've been wanting to put more time into. Guess what, nows the perfect time. When you're busy you don't think about John so much, and who knows you might even laugh again.

Let It Out

When it first happens you're shocked, you feel like you completely missed something and you have to become a P.I. to figure out where it went wrong. Stop. There's nothing to figure out. So now that he's made it clear he no longer wants you around let it all out. Cry, scream, curse, vent to a very "lucky" friend. But let it out, then let it go. Be done with it. Throw on your favorite lipstick, a song that makes you flip your hair and keep going. Don't let them see you sweat honey.

Pamper Yourself

Now you know a woman just went through some shit when she changes her hair. There's a reason. When things go wrong in life most times we feel like we have no control or things would have went right. So as women we change what we can cause unfortunately it's hard to change ourselves and be as shady as the men we deal with. Plus when you look good you feel good. Have a girl's day or a day to yourself. Mani/Pedi, haircut, facials, bubble baths, "hair done nails done everything did". You may still be sad but you make sad look good girl. **snapsnap**

Smile.

You never know who's watching.

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