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If you live and you learn, why do I sometimes feel like I’m failing at life. I mean I’ve got the living part down no problem, but the learning part—not so much. I somehow seem to repeat the same mistakes enough times to where if this was a real school I’d be held back a grade, or seven. In fact, you may as well just call me "the Fonz" of life.
I’m sure it didn’t even take "the Fonz" as much time to figure out what I have sadly come to realize over the course of many years. And that is, people will prey on you at the first sign of any weakness. They will rob you of your pride, your dignity, your peace of mind and your sanity. They will use anything and everything against you, including anything you may have told them in confidence, if they need to. Your vulnerability becomes their ammunition, and they won’t stop shooting until you are all the way down. The person shooting may very well be the same person who previously held out their hand to help you up off the ground when you were down. Make no mistake, people will always do what is best for themselves, even if that includes stepping over you.
Just because you may be a good person with the greatest of intentions does not mean the rest of the world is the same. You will come across many people who will just plain out suck for no reason, regardless of how amazing you may be. Consider weeding the following people out of your life permanently, because after all, you are only as good as the people you choose to surround yourself with.
Avoid contrarians at all costs. These are the people that come at you with negative intentions or extreme expectations from the get go. They have a preconceived notion about your character, usually a negative one, and constantly throw shade at your vibrant rays. Perhaps you let them down at some point in the past, leaving a bad taste in their mouth. Or maybe they are just pessimistic in nature. Either way, dealing with such people is toxic and draining. Living with them is plain suicide. They will find the flip side to anything you say or do, in an attempt to throw you off track. The more you try to escape their aim, the deeper you end up digging yourself into the grave they wish to bury you in.
These are the people in your life that only seem to appear when they need you. They never call you just to say hello or see how you are doing. Anytime they pop up in your life it happens to be for their own selfish reasons . And you can be sure of one thing. Once they get what they need from you, they are out of your life just as quickly as they popped in—at least until the next time they need you again. A great example of this type of person is the friend that only calls you when she’s having problems with her boyfriend. She's down and depressed and needs a shoulder to cry on so she calls you knowing you have one. As soon as things are back to normal with her bae, she vanishes into thin air quicker than Houdini.
3. Dream Crushers
Dream crushers, are just as the name suggests, the people in your life that will try to crush your dreams and convince you that those dreams are impossible to obtain. Perhaps they are jaded because of their own failures or disappointments in life, but that doesn’t give them the right to hate on yours. You need people in your life that will cheer for you on the sidelines no matter how far away the finish line may be. Dream crushers will never be that, instead they will be the ones waiting for you to finish last so that they can say, “I told you so.”
The venter is someone that calls you to—as the name suggests—vent. From the moment you pick up their call and say hello you can pretty much put the phone down for the next five minutes without them ever knowing you weren’t listening. They will be venting and complaining non-stop, getting things off of their chest as if you were their priest. They will dump all their negativity onto you and drain you of all your positive energy with one phone call. As soon as they are done venting, the phone call comes to an abrupt end. They’ve got people to see and places to go, no time to chit chat and they rarely ask about you.
These are the people that love to talk about other people behind their backs. They enjoy hearing about other peoples misery and then discussing that misery with as many people as possible. They may or may not know the person they are gossiping about, but they talk about them as if they were best friends. They could not care less if the information is true or false, as long as it gives them something to talk about. As long as they are busy focusing on someone else’s problems they are content because it leaves less room to focus on their own problems. These people enjoy spreading rumors about others and thrive from other people’s misery.
These are just a few of the miserable personality types you may encounter in your life that are no good for you. There are many more you may want to watch for. It's better to be alone than to be around those that don’t have your best interest at heart. Remember, misery always loves company so don’t forget to put up your do not disturb sign when it comes knocking at your door.