7 Signs That He's Not The One

If "...and they lived happily ever after..." is a statement that describes your ideal future, then this article is for you! Who doesn't secretly long for their own Prince Charming? Alas, I have faith that you'll find your prince in due time. Unfortunately, you'll probably end up kissing (or dating) a few frogs along the way. Having trouble figuring out which one's which? It's ok, we've all been there. Here are 7 signs that he's no Prince Charming.

1. He doesn't think you're the most fascinating thing to ever walk the Earth.

This may seem a bit dramatic, but it's true. He doesn't need to worship the ground that you walk on, but pay attention to how much interest he shows in you. You deserve someone that's going to dig deeper than asking if you want to come over and "chill" at 2 AM. Get you someone who's never going to stop wanting to learn more about you. If he wanted to get serious with you, he'd want to know as much as he can about you. If he doesn't ask about your day, hobbies, favorite color, childhood etc., he's just not that into you.

2. He forgets everything.

If you just had a conversation a few nights ago about how your dog died a few weeks ago, then today he asks if you've ever had any pets, he ain't worth your time. I'm not talking about if he innocently made a mistake and forgot something. I'm telling you to pay attention. Is it an isolated incident, or does he rarely remember anything other than your name?

3. He's making a lot of new friends (that are girls).

I'm not talking about if he already had female friends before y'all met. Those gals are grandfathered in. You can't (and shouldn't) do anything about them. But if he's constantly getting numbers from random girls and hanging out with new girls, that's a red flag, even if it really is strictly platonic. If he was that into you, he wouldn't be putting his eggs in other baskets.

4. He's doesn't have time for you.

Sure, there's a possibility that he's just an extremely busy guy. That being said, there's a difference between being busy, and being too busy for you. If he wanted you, he'd show it. It's all about priorities. Nobody deserves to be treated like a toy on the shelf that's only taken down to play with whenever boredom strikes. Know the difference, and know your worth.

5. You find yourself making excuses for him.

If you have to lie about him so that your friends or family will like him, he's probably not the guy for you. Your friends and family will see the negative signs before you do, so stop sweeping things under the rug. They have your best interests at heart, so listen to them!

6. He lets you down regularly.

If he knows that something's important to you, or that you're excited for something, there's no way he should be letting you down. Again, innocent mistakes are one thing, but if it's a semi-regular occurrence, do NOT ignore it. You deserve someone who'll do anything in their power to make sure that they don't disappoint you. If you've gotten to the point where you don't even get your hopes up anymore, it's time to walk away.

7. He doesn't spend his money on you.

This sounds superficial, but hear me out. If he claims he's broke all the time and doesn't have enough money to take you on a date or buy you flowers, yet he shows up with a new hat or new shoes every other day, you're not a priority. If he's not too broke to go to bdubs with the guys every weekend, but can't get you anything more than a $5 card on your anniversary (not even a cute love note on the inside, just his name!) run for the hills. There's nothing wrong with buying yourself stuff, or with being broke. Don't get me wrong. However, everyone prioritizes their money. If you're high on his priority list, he'd spend whatever he (realistically) could on you. Pay attention to this, there's a difference between being broke and being cheap.

Most importantly, keep in mind that the infamous "rose colored glasses" are totally a thing! In no way am I endorsing unhealthy trust issues, but just stay woke. Notice the red flags, and don't ignore them. No, he won't change. No, you won't get used to it. If there's red flags, leave! Don't emotionally invest yourself into someone that's not reciprocating! Remember, don't lower your standards for anyone.

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