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7 Things That Turn Men OFF!

Straight from the Mouth of Men!

By Heart Centered UniversePublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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Ladies, PAY ATTENTION! Attraction and sexual chemistry are very fickle things. One minute it's there, and the next, it's GONE! Your appearance is only part of the equation. It's your actions that have everything to do with his level of attraction towards you. Never make the mistake of thinking that your looks will have him hooked forever. You're going to want to do everything within your power to keep your man turned ON, instead of turning him OFF.

1. Basic Grooming

While it is not necessary to be perfectly manicured at all times, you should be showering and shaving daily. If you're not shaving then the guy is going to know that you're not that into him. And if you're not into him, why are you out with him? I realize that some feminists have tried to start a "not shaving" movement. But if you want to attract a masculine man, you're going to want to shave. He doesn't want your armpits to look like his!

Included in this is basic self-care like eating healthy and exercising. If you don't take care of yourself what that conveys to men is that you don't have respect for yourself. And also, you might be lazy.

The flip side of this coin are the women that OVERDO it with the grooming with too much makeup, fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake tan, fake hair color, too much botox and plastic surgery. Hands down, men prefer natural. Now this is not to say that you can't do any of these things. I've got on makeup right now. But the key is to not overdo it so that it's noticeable. This could leave a guy thinking: "I wonder what she REALLY looks like"?

2. Bad Habits

This includes excessive drinking, smoking, being chronically late, overspending and having excessive debt. Be really honest with yourself about what your shortcomings are so that you can work every day to improve yourself. You should want to improve yourself for its own sake, not for any man.

3. Being Ungrateful

Nothing is worse for a man than a woman who can't even say "thank you" when he buys her dinner! Also, women who are unemployed or act entitled are a huge turnoff for men. Gold digging is NOT a career path. You do not deserve anything just because you are a woman.

Men that are ready for a relationship are looking for a woman that's an equal partner. That want her to love and support him and assist him in achieving his goals and dreams. He wants a woman that is appreciative. Men equate appreciation with love, in fact, many of them can't tell the difference between the two.

4. Being Insecure and Clingy

Men love women who are confident and comfortable in their own skin. He knows that an insecure woman might cling to him in the hopes of feeling validated. Quite possibly she won't have her own life and she won't end up allowing him to have his own life either. Deflecting his compliments also comes across as insecure. If a man is telling you, you look beautiful or sexy, who are you to tell him he's wrong? Learn how to take a compliment. Say thank you and believe him!

5. Negativity

This includes constant bitching, nagging and complaining. Not having a positive outlook on life can be very draining for your partner or date. What most women don't know is that more than anything in the world, your man wants to make you happy. If you're not happy, then he feels like a complete failure. But, he doesn't want to feel like your happiness is completely dependent on him. Happiness must come from within.

Men also dislike when a woman is not fully present. If you're constantly bringing up your ex or past hurts, then you're robbing yourself of the joy of being in the present moment.

6. Being Overly Aggressive

Men are always turned off by overly aggressive women. The male's inherent genetic nature is that of the hunter, he is the aggressive one. If you're the one being aggressive then you are basically taking away his right to be the masculine one. To be the more feminine one, you should never be the one to call him, ask him out, plan dates, or lure him into bed!

7. Too Focused on the End Goal

Your main focus should not be to get the ring or marriage! The end goal should be to find love and a partner. Yes, men hide their emotions a lot of the time. But that doesn't mean that don't have any. Men are loving human beings, and should be treated as such. If he starts to think that you're looking at him as a sperm donor and banker, then he's going to be really turned off!

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Heart Centered Universe

Author of Transcendence A Memoir, SAG Actress, and Real Estate Agent based in Miami Beach, FL. My blog is about what I feel called to share with the world🌍 Be Happy and VIBE HIGH! ⭐️❤️ www.authorrebeccajbrock.com.

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