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We have all wanted to do some pretty drastic things after a breakup, and it's only human to want to lash out when you feel wronged or want someone to take you back if you didn't want the relationship to end. But there are things that, for the sake of dignity, you shouldn't ever do after breaking up with someone. Don't, under any circumstances:
1. Take It To Facebook
Airing your dirty laundry on Facebook just screams trashy, no classy person does this. All this does is start petty, childish drama that makes you look like a brat. Also, don't forget, it's not just your friends who can see what you have put, family members, even children can see what is being said so keep it clean and grown up, so basically, keep it offline.
2. Beg Them To Take You Back
It is beneath you, it really is, they broke up with you for a reason, and that reason was that they didn't want to be with you anymore. Accept that and move on, you will just look a little bit sad and desperate if you plead with them to take you back. You are worth more than that and if someone wasn't treating you right, why would you want them back anyway.
3. Try To Make Them Jealous
Everyone can see how transparent this is, trying to make someone jealous by hooking up with someone else and flaunting it everywhere just makes you look ridiculous. It's pathetic and it won't work, they broke up with you, they don't care anymore, take the hint.
It's Not Your Fault
4. Blame Yourself
Unless it actually was your fault, in which case, you can go ahead and blame yourself. But if it wasn't, don't try to make it your fault, you don't need that. If you feel as though you did everything right and it still went wrong, it's not your fault, you did everything you could so don't beat yourself up about it.
5. Believe It Is The Actual End Of The World
Because it's not, it's a bad time, but you will get through it. You might not feel like it now, but you will. All you will need is a bit of time and as much support as you can get. But you will get over it, chances are you have gotten over a breakup before, so you can certainly do it again. Take some time to feel the pain and don't try to bottle everything up, but don't go thinking you will die alone, because you won't, unless you want to!
6. Threaten Them
At no time should you ever threaten someone, it doesn't matter what with, whether it is violence, ruining their reputation or not seeing their kids anymore. Don't do it, it's not right, it's not fair and you could get into a whole world of trouble you didn't bargain for. People do crazy things when they feel threatened and you don't want to test them. Always remember that text messages might be deleted from your phone, but I doubt they will be deleted from theirs.
7. Take Revenge
This is another thing that could land you in some serious trouble, revenge might be sweet and make you feel better in the short term, you will eventually regret it. They will know that it is you, no matter how anonymous you might try to remain, and if you do anything even remotely illegal, the police will soon know too!
You might think these things will help you feel better after a breakup, but they won't. All they will do is prolong your pain and cause more pain to someone else.