Richard and Claudia are a couple I met back in July in New York. They were married in a civil service a year or so ago, but Claudia is a devout Catholic and wants to start a family right away so now a big wedding is coming up in February. They are the older brother and sister-in-law to my boyfriend. I never had a good impression of Claudia in New York, but I don't know if it would change after the wedding. All I know is that it was his brother's choice to marry the girl and it's his way or the highway.
Anyways, I may be part of the groom's family, but I also know that there will be a select few people to actually say a speech to the bride and the groom. I honestly have no intention of talking and saying anything about them, I'm just there to actually see what goes on in a Spanish wedding. But if I have to say a speech, preparing one in Spanish and then saying it in English might get me some brownie points and possibly good graces with the bride. I am known to please people and this is one of those ass-kissing moments for the bride's family of 250 Spanish speakers.
To Claudia and Richard:
Tina Modotti says about the marriage of Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera: “I don't believe in marriage.No, I really don't. Let me be clear about that. I think at worst it's a hostile political act, a way for small-minded men to keep women in the house and out of the way, wrapped up in the guise of tradition and conservative religious nonsense. At best, it's a happy delusion — these two people who truly love each other and have no idea how truly miserable they're about to make each other. But, but, when two people know that, and they decide with eyes wide open to face each other and get married anyway, then I don't think it's conservative or delusional. I think it's radical and courageous and very romantic. To Diego and Frida.”
They may be one of the biggest couples on the planet, their love was a storm of fire and fury, but when they were married, when they were lovers, the only thing Frida would ever want from a man is loyalty. She knew of Diego's infidelity, she knew he would have a few skeletons in his closet, but she loved him anyway.
Marriage is a path that two people take. Sometimes it comes by very easy for some people who have been together for so long. Other times, it is a tug-of-war or a house split halfway down the middle to ensure that they relationship lasts. Marriage is an exchange of love, compromises, and happiness. It is not a right to liberty, but a union between two people who think of each other as half of their own skies.
I wish for these two, whom are wedded today and have been wedded since to make sure their beds never stay empty, their hearts never break, and their lives become one. There are so many challenges that lie ahead. But if you are able to hold each other high, then there is no limit to what you can do. Cherish each other, treat each day like it might be last time, the last fleeting moment, the last memory. Each marriage is special in it' own right, no two couples are the same.
Richard, I know you have a lot of brushing up on your Spanish, but your wife will be a great teacher. Claudia, Richard is a free spirit who isn't afraid to do anything risky or stupid, make sure he gets some sort of creative outlet that maybe you might enjoy doing with him. Take this time as a couple to focus on what you want together and how you both will achieve it. The future is unpredictable. Moments like these, surrounded by family and friends, will not last forever.
Family and friends will come and go, but the one thing no one says about a married couple is that they are already a family. Enjoy yourselves, enjoy your time together, everything a couple has is already laid out for you. It is your job to water it and let it's petals bloom into a beautiful picture. Congrats you two and may your lives be filled with endless joy.