Acceptance, Forgiving and Letting Go

Your process of moving on and letting go shouldn't be measured by how long you've been holding on. Despite of how long or short it was, you're allowed to feel sad because you've been hurt regardless of whatever reason it is. Your feelings are valid and I don't think there is any secret formula on how to move on faster. You just gotta do your best and trust the process, I think the best thing you can do is probably learn from it and appreciate the experience you had because at some point you were very happy with that person.

Acceptance

The first step we should all do is to acknowledge the situation instead of denying it. It's only harder for us to let things go when we convince ourselves that tomorrow will be different and things will be back to normal again. Denying it will only lead us to false assumptions which will cost more pain and disappointment from making our own scenarios, and when things get worse, there is no one to blame but yourself.

The most important part is that we have to be more open-minded. We have to be mature enough to accept the fact that relationships are not mostly about butterflies, kisses and hugs. Sometimes in life we have to face the fact and accept that no matter how happy, good or perfect it was, "break ups" is an inevitable event in our life and there is nothing we can do about it but to accept it.

Forgive

Don't you feel stuck in the same scenario when you keep bringing up the past? When you keep over thinking the reasons to what went wrong. Doesn't it make you feel suffocated when you regularly think of someone who becomes toxic in your life? When you keep playing it over and over again in your head, does it really help you to forget?

Forgive even if they never asked for it, forgive them not because you want to make them to feel better but forgive them because you are letting them go officially in your life. Because forgiving them means what they did no longer lingers in your head and no longer affects you, forgive them because you are freeing all the negative thoughts, and that you are finally moving on with your life.

Let it go.

BREATHE! BREATHE! AND MORE DEEP BREATHS!

After accepting and forgiving, I think it is now easier to let things go. However, there might be some residues of the pain but HEY! It's better than going back to step one all over again right?

I think at this point the best part you can do is probably focus on yourself. It's the best time to reconcile with your friends back again, to start a new fresh life and new set of goals. Use it as your motivation to better yourself: go to the gym, buy that dress you want, go socialize, go on a vacation with friends or by yourself, watch that movie by yourself, laugh often, meet new people, and make new happy memories. Most importantly, make sure to never be afraid to lend your heart to someone else again.

Life is complicated and easy just like that...