Advice I Wish I Had

The other day I was scrolling through Facebook just passing time. I came across a post from a girl that I don't really know and never have really talked to. She was saying how she was upset and felt worthless. Even though I've never talked to her before, I wanted to message her and make sure she was OK. When she finally responded, she said that her boyfriend had recently broken up with her. Now, we have all been through a breakup before. This was the one that hurt. She told me how she felt worthless and that she was never going to find anyone and why go on with life. I gave her advice. At first, it was the advice I've always been given; the "oh, you're not going to be alone forever" advice—then I realised it's all fake. I told her my advice, the advice I wish I would've been given. I told her I understood what she was going through. I know that kind of relationship because I had it. It was that relationship where you love him so much that it hurts, but it hurts even more when you can't love him anymore. I told her how I cried myself to sleep for months, how I thought it was all pointless, how living life without him would be pointless.

Then I told her there's another guy. I told her that it hurts so bad right now— so bad it feels like you got hit by a truck, ripping you apart. Being apart from this person hurts, and not just in your heart...it hurts all over. It hurts to breathe. Eventually, the hurt ends. Sometimes it's quick, others it hurts for months, even years. I told her that another guy will come and at first you won't want it. You won't be open right away because you're still thinking about him. Then, one day, this new guy will say or do one small thing, and you will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. This one thing will make you fall in love with this new man. It will make you forget all about the other man. This will be the moment you feel the most free. This is also the moment you will finally be free from him. He no longer has control of your heart. There will be a man one day who is the last man, and the last man will never hurt you. Eventually, all the pain will end and you will finally be happy. This is the moment we all wait for. So don't be sad because you lost this one, be happy because you are now one man closer to your forever. I gave her the advice I wish I was told. The advice that actually makes you feel OK and that maybe one day you'll stop crying. Once I told her this advice, I actually began to feel it myself. I began to believe that, one day, I won't hurt anymore and that one day he won't exist in my memories. If you feel incomplete, don't, because one day you're going to be whole. You are going to be exactly the way you've always wanted to be. If you feel hurt right now because of someone. just know that one day you won't hurt anymore. Realise that one day you won't cry over someone. Never cry over someone who hurt you or hurt your heart. If you think your person will never come, don't believe that, because everyone has a person. When you stop looking, that is the moment you will find them.