Age Is Just a Number

We've all heard that saying "age is just a number." But is it true? In today's society, it is more acceptable to have an age gap but it's still quite taboo. I, however, have been with only older men my entire dating life.

I'm 25 and female and I prefer and am addicted to "May December" relationships. I find them to bring the best experiences, more happiness, and more growth. I've dated men as much as 25 years older. Quite frankly, all of the older men I have dated have been 10 times more respectful than guys my own age.

Not one older man that I've dated has tried pushing me for sex, has been abusive or controlling, and has treated me like a queen. Let me get this out of the way, though. I am not a sugar baby. I do not have intimate relationships with older men for money or materialistic items. I enjoy older men because I have more in common with them, i.e music, hobbies, interests, and because they are well educated, mature, respectful, and have their life together.

To have a fun, flirty, and intimate May December relationship, I have a few tips:

1. Know what you want. Just like any relationship, you have to know yourself and know what you want to get out of it. If it is marriage, then more than likely a May December relationship isn't for you. If it is just to have fun and to experience life with an older man, then go for it. Not saying, marriage is out of the question. Just be mindful that huge age gap marriages tend not to work out for the long haul. Be cautious.
2. Expect no change. Older men are pretty set in their ways. If you find an older man and have some issues with the way he dresses, talks, behaves etc. more than likely he will not change. Accept it or Reject it.
3. Always expect judgement. It is inevitable to get judgment, rude comments and sideways glances from strangers, family, and friends. It's okay to be nervous, but don't care what others think too much. It's your life. If you two want to be with each other then screw everyone else.
4. Little to No sex. If you are young like me, your sex drive is most likely high. Hormones are running wild and you want to sow wild oats. It's normal. BUT older men, while still may some have a sex drive, may not be interested as much or may have difficulty in that department. Don't fret just yet though. There are more ways to be intimate and have fun with your partner without pressuring each other about sex.
5. Respect his family. Older men tend to come with baggage, as do we all. That includes children, who may be older than you, and ex-wives that can cause turmoil. If you are with a man with children your age or older, it is important not to get in debates based on different perspectives. It is normal for his children to be concerned and to voice their "not so nice" opinions. More than likely, that won't change. Do your best to show them you are not a gold digger, communicate your side of the story, and if they still disrespect you, move forward and ignore. But whatever you do, don't stoop to their level. It will make it much worse and you will only put your partner in the middle.

Altogether, just be you and be honest with yourself and your partner. It is your life to live.