Are Women REALLY the Crazy Ones?

I have been called the crazy girlfriend. I mean, honestly, what girl hasn't? But are we really the crazy ones? Granted, I am known to fly into bitch mode when things get out of control and I'm the first to admit that. But I also had some pretty crazy boyfriends. I mean, that might just be my choice in men. However, I have a ton of girlfriends with similar stories. But men get away with shit a lot easier. A girl sends two texts in a row and she's clingy and crazy.

I had a boyfriend recently who I broke up with because he tried to convince me to stop swearing and cover up my tattoos. I don't stay with people who try to change who I am. I just don't. I'm getting too old to change myself for other people. Plus, I had only been dating this guy for like two weeks. Anyway, about two months later he texted me and told me that he was glad I made it home from the bar okay and he left something for me in the backyard. Might I just mention that I had gone to the bar the previous night and he was NOT there? So I found a letter in a water bottle in my backyard and it was basically a giant creepy love note. All because I had texted him a few days before and said, "Happy birthday." Nothing else. I told a few people this (and asked a couple people at the bar if they had seen him that night) and they agreed that he was in fact crazy. A few even suggested I call the cops. But most of the people I told about it said he sounded sweet and heartbroken that I had broken up with him... HE STALKED ME, but he was "sweet and heartbroken." Yeah, I think the fuck not.

I had a friend who had a boyfriend that she dated for a while, and he was totally cool. I hung out with them all the time and I could tell you, he seemed relatively normal. But he dropped her off at my house for a girl's night one night, let me just repeat that; HE DROPPED HER OFF, and everything was cool, for about an hour. We were sitting around watching stupid movies and making fun of each other and drinking a bit and he blew up her phone. When I say blew up, I mean he didn't stop calling until she answered and when she did he screamed at her to the point that we could hear their entire conversation through the phone that was not on speaker. He accused us of being at a club, of other guys being with us, and eventually, he came over and picked her up. We all begged her not to go but she turned to us and said: "He just worries about me." I'm happy to say she eventually left that wacko but the fact that it was even imprinted in her mind that THAT was caring about someone was horrible. But it happened because men aren't considered the crazy ones... like ever. And for some reason, everyone justifies it.

I know way too many women who have stories like these. Women that I look up to have told me stories of abusive relationships that they stayed in because they were convinced that they were the crazy ones. That they were the ones doing something wrong. I can't say I haven't been there. I stayed in a one year physically abusive relationship. I stayed in a five year emotionally abusive relationship. I think the emotional part is harder to leave because it's harder to recognize that there's a form of abuse going on. But too many women stay in relationships like these believing societies lies of "it'll get better" and shit like that. That's bullshit. Men are crazy.

Don't get me wrong, I've seen my fair share of crazy women. I know they exist. I've had three stepmoms. I have seen my share of crazy. Stepmom number one tried to kidnap me to get my dad to talk to her. Stepmom number two we nicknamed Coo Coo because she was crazier than a coo coo clock. Yeah... I know crazy women are out there. I'm not saying there aren't crazy women. That would just be a ridiculous statement. I'm just saying I don't think we give men the craziness that they deserve. Everyone makes excuses for men; they're immature, they have control issues, it's their testosterone, they need to feel in charge, it's the male mind... umm... actually they're human and while different sexes may have differently wired brains, we're all pretty much on the same level, more or less. I've met the sane men too. They're pretty fucking cool when they're not crazy, or whiny little bitches, since men complain almost as much if not more than women. Thought I should touch on that too since we're talking about it anyway.

Women always get the crazy rep when it comes to relationships. So my advice to women out there, when someone calls you crazy, please don't accept it. Also, don't scream at the top of your lungs that you're not crazy and smash their cell phone or try to punch them in the face because as I found out the hard way; you might just be proving their point. But don't accept it. And to the men, every time you call an ex-girlfriend crazy when you're talking to another woman, I guarantee the thought "I wonder what this motherfucker did to that poor woman to make her crazy," is going through her mind. Watch who you call crazy, cause even though you may not want to admit it, y'all are just as crazy as we are.