Chimdi Chime
Bio
I am a mind wanderer who wants to turn my mind travels into a reality. I am a strong woman with lot's to learn. I love to express myself in so many different ways, from my experiences and what I have learned, so I hope you love my stories.
Stories (23/0)
Our Paths Are Not the Same
There comes a stage in a person's life, where they begin to question what they are, who they are, or what they are doing on this earth. This stage is where people begin to find themselves—or try to; you might also look at other peoples' lives and compare them to yours, and wonder why you are where you are. I believe this stage in a person's life is very crucial. Honestly there is not much shaping in someone's life when they are kids as some believe; I think the shaping comes much later, mid-twenties to be a bit more precise.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Motivation
My Life in My Head
Ever had one of those weeks or months or just a period in your life that so many things are happening to you but you aren't sure what feeling you should have? That has been me this past few weeks. From everything that has happened, my emotions have been everywhere, and I feel so confused and not sure how to feel anymore. I was mad at myself, then I was okay, I was frustrated financially, then I came to terms with it, then I was mad again at someone else, financially frustrated, sad, then sick, like actually sick. I received some great news, which was actually more than a year late, but I guess there is a time for everything, but I couldn't even be completely happy about that because of the other things going on in my life.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Motivation
The Man in the Relationship
I wasn’t sure he loved me or even liked me enough. I knew he was out there. I knew a lot of my schoolmates knew him. To me he was proud, arrogant, very annoying and inconsiderate towards my feelings. I met him through social media and my first encounter with him on there was not pleasant. I wondered why someone I had never met in person before was so rude to me, I wondered if I accidentally came across him before and offended him in some way for him to be rude towards me. Thinking back at it, I feel like that was his way of getting my attention. He constantly sent me messages and would never fail to be annoying. As time passed, we started to talk quite often on social media, and he did apologize after a while for being rude in the beginning.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Finding Your Purpose
Have you been at stage in your life where you ask yourself, “What is my purpose in life?” Maybe you are at that stage currently, maybe you haven’t gotten there or you already passed that stage. But, I believe everyone in life will ask themselves that question at some point. For me, I asked myself that question a couple of weeks back, and I didn’t have an answer to it. You might have a regular job, getting your daily bread, and are somewhat comfortable with your life, but it’s the feeling of fulfillment that drives you to want to have a purpose. I sort of followed a manual all my life, I took all the steps society and my parents deemed necessary to grow in life; but at this point, I’m not sure I want to keep climbing those steps. I want to branch out and do things I never thought I could do. I believe I’ll find my purpose that way, but you can never be too certain. I go to work everyday, I like where I work and the people I work with, but I just don’t want it to be all I do. While I was in school, all I did was centered around school. I didn’t have much of a social life. I lived, ate, and slept school. It was my sole priority which was right, but I should have had a balance to do more extracurricular activities and have a good time with friends. If I was not doing school work, I just always felt like I was doing something wrong, which was not a healthy mentality. Now, I’m not in school anymore, I feel like I need to... actually, I have to do things differently because I need to find myself, what I’m here for, and the things that make me genuinely happy while being right with God.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Motivation
I Am Not My Hair
“I am not my hair,” is something I constantly tell myself, because my hair is my insecurity. Growing up as a young girl, my hair never concerned me, I did know that my hair was not “normal,” that is, it was not similar to every other little girl. I knew this because my mom told me I did not have a lot of hair, especially in-front, from my hairline. She didn’t say this in any insulting way or anything like that, everyone in my family joked to some extent about it, but it was normal and all love. My mom did so many things to help my hair grow better, sometimes my hair showed better growth, other times it was just bad.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Blush
Communication Is Key
A very important factor in a good relationship is communication. A lot of people would agree with me on this one. Communication in your relationship doesn’t just mean always having something to talk about when you are together, it also means talking about everything you feel and think about in regards to your relationship. Yes, the both of you might share similar interests in music, always discussing the latest albums, how this artist should have partnered with that artist, and all the controversies within the music industry. But when it comes to certain things you feel about your partner, you cave in and don’t want to talk about it. In one of my relationships, I used to think my partner hated to talk about our relationship, he always thought it was too serious a topic. And that’s true, for a lot of people, talking about their relationship to each other is “too serious” and it kills the fun. Just like you don’t have to be so serious all the time, it doesn’t have to be fun all the time as well.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Accepting Your Flaws
Everyone at some point in their life has disliked or even hated some parts of their bodies—except if you think extremely highly of yourself and have always thought you were perfect, then cheers to you. It may have started in your early days, or in your 20s, or much later in your life. With me it was my skin, my hair, and my teeth; it seems like a lot of stuff to dislike about yourself, and it is. It was not the color of my skin per se, it was what happened to it. When I was about four or five years old, I got into a home accident and I was burnt by some hot beans. When I tell people this, they think it’s weird. But you can get burnt by anything hot, it’s the temperature that counts. My aunt was making some delicious porridge beans, and my clumsy self stumbled into the place making a fuss about hot chocolate—I loved it so much then, I had it every night. In an effort to get me out of the kitchen, I mistakenly hit it and fell, and the whole thing came tumbling down. I can’t remember the pain, but I know I was in a lot of pain. I believe my aunt poured water on me, which made it worse—some research says that works sometimes. Honestly, I don’t know, I'm not a medical person, I just know it made it worse. My parents weren't around so my neighbors had to take me to the hospital. I remember it so well: There were a lot of people in the car, it was a family, so the husband in the driver's seat, the wife in the passenger's seat carrying me, their daughter in the backseat, and there were others in the backseat—I can’t remember who they were (I guess not so well now, Chimdi). I remember their daughter crying because we were close friends. I looked at her wondering why she was crying so much when I was the one in pain, I wasn’t even crying that hard 😀 ha... not for long, because I turned and I looked at myself and I started screaming, again, because my skin was peeling. I wasn’t in that much pain, it was the fact that my skin was peeling that made me cry. I’m actually laughing writing this, but that’s why time heals.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Motivation
Cheat on Me Once, It's Over
I do not condone cheating in any way, but frankly I'm a bit confused as to why a lot of people do not forgive a person for cheating, just once. Look, it wasn’t right to cheat in the first place and I understand that. I have never been cheated on, or cheated on someone, I do not have an experience in this area, but it’s something that happens to a lot of people and is sadly a common topic. Because I do not know what it feels like to be cheated on or to cheat on someone, all I’m trying to do here is lay out a few things I've heard about cheating and to better understand this whole idea of cheating and what comes with it.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
One Bad Deed Doesn’t Define a Person
Have you ever been in a situation where you were looked down on or judged because of something you did in the past? Well it isn’t a pleasant feeling. Or, have you ever looked down on someone and thought someone was the scum of the earth because of something they did? I have been on both sides of this coin and I didn’t like either. As humans, we are not perfect in any shape or form. No matter how good a person can be, we tend to make decisions or do things that may not be so good. At the moment of that decision, sometimes we don’t think about the effects and the long run consequences of the action—we tend to only think about the temporary gain. But that’s just what it is—we do bad things sometimes. The bad things we have done don’t make us bad people. Yes, over time the attitude you show people, your personality, and some of the things you do all combine to show people what kind of person you are. It does not mean that the one bad thing you did at some point automatically cancels out the other good things you have done. Personally, I wonder why some people tend to see only the bad in people. I'm not innocent of this either. I had a friend that I grew to like as a person. Even before that, I was told that this person was a no-good person especially when it came to relationships. I chose not to believe it at first, because I didn’t know this person all too well yet. That’s another thing, people: don’t take what people say about others as gospel before you even get to know them.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Friendship Takes Effort
Honestly, friendship is a touchy topic for me. Back in elementary and high school, whenever my mom said something like, “What is your friend's name,” or “Is she your friend?” I always corrected her and said, “That’s not my friend, that’s my schoolmate.” Mostly because my mom calls everybody I talk to a friend, even if I only talked to them once. But anyways, the point is, a friend to me is much more than talking to someone a couple of times. A friend is someone you can trust, someone you can confide in, and someone you can go to anytime for help. I get that there can be different levels to friendship; some friends may be good for some things, while others are good for something else. You can know a lot of people, but can you really call all of them your friends? No, they are called acquaintances, in my opinion.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Showing Love ≠ Emptying Your Pockets
Many people out here think and believe that the person who says they love them has to spend a lot of money to show that love. The bigger the diamond, the bigger the love, Uhhh... NO! That couldn’t be more wrong. The way I see it, if you fell out of love with that person, they could easily go and get that same diamond for the next person they get into a relationship with. So, that love was not unique to you. The get-aways, the clothes, expensive jewelry, and what have you. Some people equate that to love, but it’s not. Sure, it’s an amazing thing to spend all the money you possibly can on the one you love, and vice versa, I am all for that. But ask yourself, if they lost the money today would you still stick around. Money and materials things are fleeting, you spend the money, you use the stuff, it runs out, or ends. Real love is deep rooted in all of the things that make a person.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Comparison Is Not Healthy
I guess by now this is not news to you; you’ve probably been told a lot of times to not compare yourself to others, and the same goes for your relationship. If you haven't heard it before, well, news flash: do not compare yourself to others. Now before you get all defensive or sensitive, comparing yourself to someone is not the same as looking to someone for inspiration, or guidance. You know, social media whether we like it or not, has a very strong influence on us, even the things we think we come about originally, probably has its source deep rooted in something we saw on social media.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans