S A Miller
Bio
tragically human, perfectly flawed, unapologetically authentically me!
Lover not a fighter.
Pretend writer and real life woman.
Stories (8/0)
Five ways to adult better
When we are young, the world (though scary at times) is filled with endless possibilities. Somewhere along the line we turned into worker ants and became so results orientated that we forgot how to live. We became so consumed with the end goal and doing what adults are 'supposed' to do that we forgot what it means to just live. Being an adult used to be associated with the ideals around freedom to be, financial freedoms and just not giving a rats ass about what people thought. Then we actually become adults and well, here we are sipping coffee at work and reading articles on how to adult better. It's just part of the cycle of life. All is not lost, here are a few gentle reminders for everyone, regardless of what stage in life you find yourself. Some points are great for reminiscing, others are gentle reminders. Take what works and forward the rest to someone else you think needs a few minutes break from their mundane job.
By S A Miller3 years ago in Humans
In the Pursuit Of... Purpose
When we were children we were asked one question consistently throughout the years: "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Depending on your parents and their parenting style, this would often be followed up by their vision of what you are 'supposed' to become according to their lack of imagination or failed dreams, or in most cases, what the neighbours might be most envious of. From a young age we instill in children the need to become someone admirable in the community. but this is usually linked to material worth and social standing. As a result we develop a need for validation from outside forces when it comes to making the biggest decisions of our lives at a time when we really don't need to be making massive commitments to things that we probably don't even have the passion or drive to do. In a lot of cases the driving force behind big decisions around being lawyers or doctors or anything deemed socially 'important' often derives from a place of fear... often, not all the time. Should we really be allowing fear to be the driving force when it comes to career choices?
By S A Miller4 years ago in Motivation
Conscious: What Does It Actually Mean?
"Enlightenment" "mindfulness" "consciousness" "awareness"... These are all terms that seem to be on-trend at the moment. Whilst there is definitely a shift in general awareness, there is also a large number of people that use these buzz words as a means to fit in or be one of the cool ones but in reality, what does it actually mean to be a conscious individual?
By S A Miller5 years ago in Motivation
Adult Relationships —What Is Your Love Language?
Take a moment to think back to your childhood. What's the first memory or thought that comes to mind? Is it happy or sad? Now take another moment to think about the relationship you had with your parents. In your recollection were they emotionally available? Did they have time for you to sit and chat about the most mundane things or were they always preoccupied with the demands of survival? Now when you get a moment speak to your parents about what their life was like when you were between the ages of zero to five years old. Were you in a loving environment? Did you maybe grow up in a single-parent home? All these things have a massive impact on the way that you now interact as an adult within your friendships and relationships.
By S A Miller5 years ago in Humans
A Case of the Ex
The beginning of any relationship is always the most fun. The other person is full of life, and completely intriguing; we want to spend most [all] of our time around them. We are simply intoxicated by the thought, smell, taste, thought of them. They are everything, until they are not.
By S A Miller5 years ago in Humans
Dating - The Compromise Conundrum
The road to discovering a compatible life partner is filled with all sorts of obstacles that we need to overcome. To begin with, we need to make sure that the chosen mode of transport is best suited for the terrain. The vehicle (in this instance, you) needs to be well maintained both on the inside and on the outside. You can't drive in an environment that requires you to use your windscreen wipers if they are unable to keep the windscreen clear enough for you to see through. This is the same when it comes to our outlook of ourselves and relationships. In order to have a clear view of the road ahead, we have to be sure that we have upgraded the wind screen wiper blades. In other words, do the work internally to ensure that you can see people for who they are as opposed to merely a projection of our own insecurities, fears, and shortcomings. In most cases, we have a bad habit of overly romanticising a person/situation in order to fit in with our ideals.
By S A Miller5 years ago in Humans
Dating After Divorce
There is absolutely nothing more daunting than the idea of being "back on the market" after a prolonged absence due to being betrothed to "the one" for a spell. After being married and with the same person for a long time, we tend to get very comfortable in the idea of who we are. The role of being a wife or a mother is actually a small part of who we actually are and it's easy to forget that we are more than just a title. Transitioning from these roles can be outright scary, especially when you factor in the way things have changed from when you were single at 18 to being single in your early 30s.
By S A Miller5 years ago in Humans
Sexual Frustration in a Hook-Up Culture
As the saying goes, "variety is the spice of life," whilst that may be absolutely accurate when I am cooking my famous spaghetti Bolognese that has sprinkles of USA flavours in the form of oregano spice, or a taste of southern Spain, with a generous dash of paprika powder, that is not always a good thing when it comes to sex. Is that the collective mental gasps of naysayers echoing in these internet streets? Before we agree to disagree, read on...
By S A Miller5 years ago in Filthy