Both Sexes Answer: What Women Want in a Man

That’s right, my peeps, it’s time for another Jus L'amore experiment. Recently, I discussed Top Male Turnoffs for Women, which illustrated five of the worst traits a man could possess according to women. Now, it's only right that we delve into what women DO find attractive in a man. However, this time I wanted to switch things up and survey males as well as females to see if men have any idea of what turns a women on. So, with the help of 50 men and 50 women, ranging from their late twenties to mid thirties, I conducted my first What Women Want experiment.

Before I reveal my findings, let me be the first to admit how surprised I was. Not so much with the actual results, but more of who they came from. What I expected from the men was an overabundance of sarcastic and insecure remarks including fat wallets, good looks, and large crotches. For the women, I predicted the focus to be on looks, personality, and confidence. However, I couldn't have been more wrong. The men listed a variety of quality traits while my women concentrated almost completely on looks and physique. What can I say? Just like men tend to think with the wrong head, sometimes women talk from the wrong set of lips. Sorry, that was graphic.

Let us take a look at what both sexes had to say about what women look for in a man.

What Men Think Women Want

1. Eyes, Smile, Teeth

The most popular response had to do with the physical, more specifically nice eyes, smile, and teeth. I would have to agree with the men here and say yes, before noticing his car, style, and swag, humans (both male and female) are almost immediately drawn to the face. Ryan, a Central Jersey firefighter said it best: “I think good looks (eyes, teeth, smile, athletic build, etc.) will get you an interview, but if you can't hold a decent conversation or offer anything intelligent to say then you're not going to get the job (and by job I mean in the panties).”

2. Money

Of course, money had to make the top 3. Do you know how many men obsess over material objects and truly believe that money makes them better looking? Listen, as a decent looking, somewhat independent female myself, I can honestly tell you there is nothing attractive about a lazy ass bum; however, dudes have to stop putting so much emphasis on the financial aspect of first impressions. I speak for many chicks when I say, I am more likely to chat it up with the normal-looking, carefree, funny guy than the stuffy Ken doll with a Rolex. Now, for my gold digging hoes, yes a fat wallet can make up for a pig-vomit face and a 50-year age difference, but then again you're a manipulative she-devil so what you think doesn't matter.

3. Confidence

I was pleasantly surprised to see how many of the 50 male responses listed confidence. They couldn't be more right because a man who carries himself with class, manners, and self-assurance is indeed sexy as hell.

4. Style

I wasn’t sure if men would list style as an eye-catcher, but to my shock it was mentioned even more than a “nice body.” Once again, I have to agree with the fellas here. Would I rather the out of shape dude with dope kicks, nice jeans, and baby blues, or some cheese-ball muscle head in corny attire? I choose dude #1, but then again, that's just me.

5. Body

Not much explanation needed here, men believe women are attracted to nice bodies and as you will read below, they most certainly are. I must also mention the 10 or so replies I received that included “bulge” with their body response. As in, when a woman sees a man for the first time, she checks out his pecker as much as his pecs. Hilarious! Listen guys, sure every woman loves a nicely proportioned body, but very rarely do girls sit around and study a man's crotchical area to predetermine what he's packin’ and if it seems worth it. Lord, talk about a floozy!

What Women Really Want

1. Eyes

Hey, the men got number one right! Many of the women questioned listed nice eyes, inviting eyes, and kind eyes as their number one turn on. What exactly kind eyes are, I am still not sure, but according to the female libido, kind eyes are one sure-fire way to get our attention. I have to admit, I myself have always been a sucker for nice eyes and not even in a sexual way; I am just drawn to beautiful pupils.

2. Smile, Teeth, and Height

Just as the men saw it, women see it too. A nice inviting smile on a tall man is bound to break a few necks.

3. Style and Smell

You know women had to mention body odor because what's worse than a dude who smells like hot garbage. Women notice men who are dressed well and smell good. I swear when a man walks by smelling of sweet manly cologne (the good kind) it immediately draws the attention of every surrounding lady. While confidence wasn’t mentioned as much as I thought it would be, I have to assume these two qualities usually belong to confident men, because usually with good taste comes good self esteem.

4. The V

All hail the Holy V — you know, that god-given cut from the hips to his crotch that makes every woman drool. How this was mentioned so many times in regards to “first impressions” is beyond me. Do we expect men to just lift up their shirt at our request to prove if they were blessed with the panty-dropping indentation? Are we that vain that we notice a man with a V over a man who projects confidence and humor? Unfortunately according to most responses I received, we do and we are. Barbara, a Colorado resident, admitted it best: “I notice his build. A guy with broad shoulders, thick arms and that V shaped waist is the quickest way to draw me in, especially under his shirt.” Amen, sister.

5. Tattoos

Ladies, ladies, ladies, I appreciate your honesty here, because I too am a sucker for a man covered in ink, but are we seriously counting colorful sleeves before confidence and humor? Apparently so. Granted, most women questioned were between the ages of 27 and 34, but still! Shouldn't we know by the age of 30 that tattoos are hot but they mean shit when it comes to who the man is. Yeah, sure, you both love tattoos but aside from that the guy may be a jobless asshole whose armpits smell worse than an unwashed gym sock from 1976.

Word of advice, all my single men who haven't had any luck in the dating department, you need to go whiten your teeth, get some delicious cologne, and hit up the nearest tattoo shop.