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Bring Passion Back into Your Life

A Blog to Inspire the Passion in All of Us

By Sierra IPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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How to bring the passion back into your relationship after its been routine for a while is one of the easiest, and hardest, things to do. It's easy because, though things have become routine, you still love each other. It's hard because, sometimes, breaking that routine can prove to be a challenge. Many people aim for some kind of routine in their daily lives, this is true. But, when you aim to have everything organized, including your sex life, things can get just a little dull. So, I've got eight helpful ways for you and your partner to get that passion back and kick some of that routine away for a few minutes.

  • Communicate with your partner. Schedule a time to talk to each other. Make it a new routine. Here's an example:
  • Every Tuesday of the week, your kids have after-school activities. You normally would be cleaning around the house and your significant other would be working outside (again, just an example). Instead of taking the time to do those things, schedule them for a different day or time. Here are a few topics to talk about:
    • How you met
    • A significant part of your relationship where you both truly felt connected
    • Your future dreams; then and now
    • Where you see your relationship in X-years
    • Your sexual fantasies and things you want to experiment
    • What your ideal, perfect date to plan for your partner would be (keep your partner's desires and interests in mind)
  • Go on a mock-date. What I mean by this is, even if you both are extremely busy, find a time when you're both off (or schedule the same day off if you can) and have an in-home date. Get some drinks that you like, make some food or order out for delivery, pick a movie or have a fire in the backyard and look at the stars. Having an intimate, romantic moment doesn't have to be fancy. It just has to be special.
  • Taunt your partner when they least expect it. Run your fingers gently up their spine while they're trying to fix the leaky pipe under the sink or nibble their ear as they wash dishes. Little things like that let your partner know that your thinking of them, and it makes them feel wanted and special as all partners should.
  • Make sure that they know when you're checking them out. Don't be afraid to speak out loud, even if you think it sounds silly in your head. Even if it is a little silly, your partner knows you. They'll know what you mean and they'll appreciate the fact that you took the time to tell them.
  • Point out little things that you know or noticed about them that no one else does. Maybe they bite their nails when they're nervous? Be blunt and ask why they're nervous, not if. Maybe they get a little bounce in their step when they're excited. Be excited with them and ask what the good news is! Everyone is different and uses different body-language. Knowing your partner's body language can help you to communicate better, show how much you care about them because you noticed, and helps you gauge their mood.
  • Don't be afraid to go a little outside-the-box or away from your comfort zone. Let's say, a long time ago, your partner told you that they had always had a fantasy about getting a lap-dance. Make it come true! When you know they'll be coming home, decorate a room, (you can create a 'treasure hunt' or something along those lines if you feel frisky enough and have the time), and wait. They'll be so surprised! And, don't worry about feeling awkward. It's your significant other. They love you for who you are, not because of what you would be doing at one present moment. And, if they've asked and been denied before, they will be extra surprised and extra grateful.
  • Want to go on a retreat? Here's something fun you guys can do together. If you have kids, have grandma and grandpa watch them over the weekend for some alone time. Get some boards and paint them like your dream vacation spot together. Look up some DIY props for wherever you'd like to go and see if you have the material to make them (I always recommend Pinterest because they have literally everything). When everything's done, enjoy your getaway with your partner, because you guys deserve it. But, what happens in Vegas à la Backyard STAYS in Vegas à la Backyard, right?

Most importantly, make time for each other. It doesn't have to be sexual. Passion isn't just about sex. It's the feeling you get when the one you love holds you and wipes your tears away. It's the feeling you get on those late-night car rides, laughing over nothing. It doesn't matter if it's five hours or five minutes, make the time every day to make eye-contact with your partner, smile, touch their cheek or shoulder or back, and tell them you love them. You admire them. They inspire you. Everyone needs to be needed and everyone wants to be wanted.

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Sierra I

FT mom, writer, and 'doer'. Coffee obsessed and science-based, I thoroughly enjoy broadening people's horizons and mental processes through the written word.

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