Burgers Forever?

Take a minute to imagine your favorite food. I know it’s probably tough, but try to narrow it down to one. My favorite food happens to be burgers, and my favorite place to go is this place called Jefferson’s with my partner. We go there all the time, so much so that last week we went four days in a row. The people who work there know us by face, they know our drink orders, they even know that when our food comes out my partner will ask for two sides of ranch, and no, he doesn’t care that it’s extra. Often when we go I’ll order a burger, but sometimes I find myself looking at the other options like the wraps, salads, wings, etc., which are also very good. Sometimes though, when my partner and I are deciding where to go, we distinctly say not Jefferson’s. It doesn’t mean we don’t like it anymore, just means maybe we want sushi or tacos instead, but there’s no doubt that sometime that week, if not multiple times, we will go back to Jefferson’s.

So what exactly does this have to do with anything? Well, let’s let Jefferson’s represent your primary partner, and let the burgers represent what’s comfortable and normal for you and your partner. Sometimes though, a relationship, no matter how perfect, needs to be spiced up a little, so let the wraps, salads, and wings represent trying something new like going on vacation or bringing home flowers or trying a new hobby with your partner. But, even with all the spicing up in the world, sometimes things just get a little dull or too comfortable. Sometimes the only thing you want is something completely different, but that doesn’t mean you never want to see your partner again. You love your partner and love being with your partner, you just maybe want to be with someone else too.

Now, I know what you all are thinking, "it’s not quite the same thing" and it’s not. But I’m not trying to immediately get you to drop everything and be poly. I’m just trying to open your mind a little so I can plant the seed of interest in your mind and let you do what you want with it. That seed may just stay a seed and your opinion may stay the same. That seed may sprout roots and you might only go as far as to see polyamory as a valid relationship for others. But maybe, just maybe and hopefully, that seed may start to grow, you’ll start doing research like I did, start considering it until that seed becomes a small plant that’ll grow the more you immerse yourself in the polyamory lifestyle.