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"Sometimes Heart Break Is Necessary"

By Steve EmersonPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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TRUE GENUINE FEELINGS

So I pretty much got attached, the feeling was very unique and nothing I have ever felt before... It was a long time since I had talked to a girl, and even tried to flirt. This girl really gave me the impression she felt the same way I did... We went out like every weekend, and everything was going great, and I felt like I was maintaining the relationship. A couple weeks go by, and I notice that the connection isn't the same... of course, the slightest idea of me losing this girl drove me crazy so I tried my best, and believed I could hopefully fix everything, and keep her interest...

Things just kept getting worse and the connection just wasn't the same, and I feared isolation and a lack of attention, so I grew desperate. My mistake was allowing my happiness to become dependent on the presence of an individual. As soon as she broke up with me, I became depressed and felt horrible, and extremely fatigued after school with little to no motivation... I felt useless, and felt worthless…

I was always a good student, and I was somebody that gave much priority to my studies, but all the remorse and grudge I felt destroyed me, and was literally eating me alive. It even got the point I started displacing my anger onto other people like my friends and parents

All these mixed emotions brought confusion and obsession, but something clicked in me, and told me that I could either use this situation as an opportunity to grow and learn, or sink in my own depression... So I get my ass up! And I go to the gym, and all this dedication distracted me from these sad ideas, and in a way I felt free! A couple weeks go by, and I hear all these gossips about this girl getting with all these guys and "cheating," and in other words, she was just a mess.

I can't say I'm the most experienced guy in the world, but I can say everything happens for a reason... And the more you force things, the less they last... Everything I wish I had was no longer a desire for me, and I learned to grow and improve from this situation.

The thing is with women it’s like a mind game… you have to win in your head to win with women… because time has shown me it doesn’t matter how strong or built you look like... if you can’t be mentally strong, everything else is irrelevant. Now don't get me wrong, I’m not trying to bash women, but I do want to be transparent, and want to give the best advice…

I think the most important aspect in love, is most of all, before anything, respecting yourself and learning to love your value, and appreciate your talents… because I don’t think your time stressing out about somebody is even worth it because the universe demonstrates constantly that people come and go.

However, despite this experience I feel like it's the big hits in life that make you more mature and less innocent, which is what I needed. And in life, patience is crucial, because as hard as it sounds, things don’t happen when you want, but when they can.

And if you can relate to this, or are going through some tough shit, just be patient because time heals everything… believe me, I know how it feels to have everything you want, and out of nowhere everything is lost…

“There's times when I wish I was where I was, back when I used to wish I was here” -Drake
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