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Communication Is Key

Don’t hide what you feel.

By Chimdi ChimePublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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A very important factor in a good relationship is communication. A lot of people would agree with me on this one. Communication in your relationship doesn’t just mean always having something to talk about when you are together, it also means talking about everything you feel and think about in regards to your relationship. Yes, the both of you might share similar interests in music, always discussing the latest albums, how this artist should have partnered with that artist, and all the controversies within the music industry. But when it comes to certain things you feel about your partner, you cave in and don’t want to talk about it. In one of my relationships, I used to think my partner hated to talk about our relationship, he always thought it was too serious a topic. And that’s true, for a lot of people, talking about their relationship to each other is “too serious” and it kills the fun. Just like you don’t have to be so serious all the time, it doesn’t have to be fun all the time as well.

But talking about your relationship doesn’t have to be so serious; this took a while for me to learn because, even though I was the one in the relationship to bring up this topic, it scared me. It might be the same for you too, I would think that if I said something it would make my partner angry with me. Oh, that’s one of my fears, I generally hate when people I love are mad at me. I noticed this a long time ago with my elder brother. If I did something that made him mad, I would do everything I could to make things right with him because I just dreaded the thought of him being angry with me. If my partner was mad at me, it hurt me, almost more than the anger hurt them.

You cannot expect your relationship to progress if you don’t talk about things. Because, for a while, I would silently playback things my partner did that I did not like, or things he didn’t do that I liked. I would brush it off saying, oh that’s just the way he is, but it’s not always like that, things can be learned, every day we are learning no matter how old we are. The more I brushed it off, the more I thought about it and the more I got mad when he did those things I didn’t like or didn’t do those things I liked. It was a viscous cycle, but I got the courage (Courage the Cowardly Dog 😊 sorry, I just have to anytime I say or write “courage”) and I wrote down how I felt. My courage wasn’t all the way to 100, but it was there, and that’s what may help you: Write your feelings down, but make sure your partner reads it. I gave to him what I had written down. He read it quietly; I can’t remember if I was in the room or not, but when he read it, we talked. He said he was willing to learn some of the things I wrote down, and he also made me understand that some of the things I wrote down were not worth worrying about. Basically, it felt liberating, I felt reassured, and frankly, even happier. Our relationship became even stronger. As time passed, whenever I felt some type of way, I did not hesitate to talk to him. Sometimes I was worrying over nothing, sometimes I didn’t fully understand things, and sometimes I just didn’t get his side of things. What I'm saying is, when you communicate your feelings, you gain better understanding, your mind learns and adapts, your heart calms down, and your relationship gets better.

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Chimdi Chime

I am a mind wanderer who wants to turn my mind travels into a reality. I am a strong woman with lot's to learn. I love to express myself in so many different ways, from my experiences and what I have learned, so I hope you love my stories.

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