Communication Tools That Save Relationships

In society, over the past decade, there have been important changes. Considering how fast our lives are these days, and the amount of work and information we encounter, every day leaves us drained. Most people don’t have the energy to treat themselves, let alone their partner. So the conflict rises and the quarrel intensifies. Here are a few tips on how to work through these periods without destroying the relationship.

How does communication work?

The main source of problems in relationships is the lack of communication. And relationships are the result of people's behavior—of how their communication is organized. The point is not that one of the partners is bad. We are all good enough to live together normally. Each has the tools to build an optimal system of interaction with their partner. Patience can be important for relationships and communication, and that's what needs to be changed. We are constantly immersed in communication and we want to see a reaction this instant. It occurs on the verbal and non-verbal levels. I present you the best communication tools that will help you to communicate with your partner and improve your relationship.

The Principle of First Response

This principle means that in a conflict everything will depend not on the person who begins to quarrel, but on the person who answers them. You may feel that you can rudely answer a person verbally because they themselves started a quarrel. But think 100 times before answering. The strength of the conflict depends only on the person who gives the answer. As the saying goes, “A mild response will turn away anger, and a rude word excites anger.”

The Principle of Touch

Touching is the most powerful means of breaking the barrier and breaking the ice. According to the results of research, scientists proved that touching changes the physical and emotional state, and makes people more susceptible to love. Sometimes, we need care and protection. In this case, touching someone we trust helps us to feel such necessary emotions. Thus, physical contact can be very important and help with the anxiety and stress in the most difficult of periods.

The Principle of Choosing the Right Time

People like to talk not when others can hear them, but when they want to talk. Very often you can hear from your partner, "I come home from work late, I fall down, I don’t even have the strength to eat—I am totally drowned—and they want to pester me about not paying much attention to them." You need to choose the right time to discuss all your issues. The moment you both are open and ready to talk is the best time to discuss your relationship. Of course, all people are different and need time to gather the strength to talk about it, but this does not change the rules—talk about difficult topics when you have time and energy to talk.

The Principle of Mirroring

This principle is about understanding the emotional state of another person, and about the ability to empathize and sympathize. A person who does not possess such a skill will constantly hit a wall in relationships and end up with a huge misunderstanding on their hands. You just need to understand the state of your partner, and make them understand it too—how you feel at the moment. The mirroring principle is a very important principle of any communication—if only because nowadays people have become very emotional and problems arise for everyone.

Principle of Breathing

This principle is not complicated, but it requires your close attention. We are so used to hearing about deep breathing that its importance as a calming exercise often passes us by. Start with 30 seconds of deep breathing when you go to bed every night. Do it regularly when you think that your emotions are taking control over you. Remember those common deep breaths can help you to deal with emotional overdrive, that way you can have a calm and thorough discussion about your relationship—and possibly even save it.

All people are different, and their relationships are also different. Living in such big and bustling cities like Toronto, Chicago, or Sydney can have its toll on everyone and everything, especially your communication with your partner. But do not forget that once you have decided to be with your partner, remember that communication is a tool that can help you save your relationships.

Presenting the Author

Hi, I’m Amelia and I’m a freelance digital manager, iGaming review writer, and travel blogger. My line of work eventually started to affect my relationships, but I understood that something needed to be done, so I analyzed my relationships and decided to share my experience, in the hope that it might be useful to someone.