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When You Are the Older One

By Jiire SuyiPublished 7 years ago 3 min read
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It’s better to focus on your dreams whether you are in a beautiful relationship or not. 

I cannot really recall how I met this guy, but all I know is that we were in the same Faculty at the time. He seemed like he’d never hurt a fly being that he was young and had not been in a lot of relationships.

We became friends and got closer and closer and you must know that I for one, have no problem with the issue of age in a relationship. The highest difference between my age and a guy I am interested in should be six years.

I believe that in these kinds of relationships, the young are supposed to help the old feel young again and make them realise that it is okay to be carefree once in a while. And the old are supposed to help the young grow to be a better person who would become mature and know how to handle difficult situations.

This guy was the sweetest guy I had ever known, but it was all too good to be true, I got skeptical sometimes. One moment, I wanted to just go, “What the hell?” and enjoy the moment, one moment, I would be worried about when he starts to misbehave.

I am someone who really likes to be in a long-term relationship because it allows me to grow into the relationship, have just one person I can always have to count on and that he, in return, wants some of the same things I want too. But sometimes, relationships can become relationshits.

To cut the long story short, he messed up.

I always have this gut feeling whenever something is not right, my instincts just start to play FBI, CIA, SWAT, all at the same time when I smell a rat. I later found out that a girl he had met before came back into the picture. They messed around and started dating, making him break up with me and confidently saying that she was what he wanted when I asked.

I was hurt, really hurt, and because I feel things deeply, I cried a lot for a couple of days. Then in a matter of time, I got over it. I told him he was going to regret choosing her and all, I am sure he’d have called my bluff that day and on other days he remembered all I said. It wasn’t up to two or three months when I started getting calls from him and when I finally gave audience, told me how the relationship crashed.

Karma did not take long to serve him.

Now, why did I share this story? I know that I am not the only one in the world who has gone through something like this, but what am I getting at? Relationships should not make you lose yourself, you should have to drown in self-pity or wallow away in pain. No!

Every bad experience on teaches a lesson and although you should forgive, you must never forget the situation so you do not make such mistake again. Your dreams and goal are what is paramount, you must never lose sight of your dream and no matter how many heartbreaks you get in this lifetime, do not let your dream suffer because of that.

Always take your dreams seriously!

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