Dating Disasters

#MyWorstDate

What do you do when a date goes all wrong? I thought about this a lot. My worst date story started with one of my very first dates after my previous break up with my boyfriend of nine years. Talk about bad luck, LOL. You might have thought this date would have scarred me to never go on dating sites again, but it didn’t. I have been on many dates since, but this one takes the cake, or should I say steals the show.

It all began two years ago when I agreed to go to dinner with a guy I was talking to from the dating site. We have been talking on the phone for over a week daily, so it was time to finally meet before anymore time was wasted. I hate talking on the phone to begin with, but if it’s with the right guy and you want to invest the time, it’s worth it. I work Monday through Friday so I decided on a day after work would be good. Then if we didn’t click, it’s not an all-day date and no waste of a day.

The plan was to meet at Coopershawk, one of my favorite restaurants. They have great food, tasty wine, and the best sangria by far. Overall it was a great setting with no pressure. We agreed to meet at 7 PM. I had arrived at 6:45 PM, so I was seated and ordered a sangria while I waited for my date to arrive. It was perfect to have a drink and relax before he showed up. That was the first problem, he showed up 35 minutes late. I let it slide, at least I wasn’t stood up. The first impression was OK; he was a good-looking friendly guy and there was no sign of awkwardness. Then we started talking and he ordered a drink. Then he said it, the worst thing I have ever heard for a reason he was late. He explained that on the way to the restaurant he sneezed and boogers were scattered across his shirt. Then he proceeded to drive to Walmart to pick up a new shirt to wear since the other one was covered in snots. We haven’t ordered food yet so at that point I wasn’t sure I was still hungry. Then when his drink arrived we ordered dinner and he continued to talk about his background and that he had a second grade education. He said he had to drop out of school to take care of his siblings. Apparently, his mom was into drugs. He also told me that he’s been in and out of jail three times. It’s a sad story so I let him ramble on. I made him feel confident that I was OK with it and still was into him, but I wasn’t. I wondered why he never mentioned any of this on the phone. I know it sounds shallow, but he wasn’t what I was looking for. We then ate dinner and he told me how he was glad we met and hopes we have more dates. I kept smiling and acting interested. After we ate I started to pull out money from my wallet; he said I got this no problem. It took him a minute to figure addition I’m guessing because he kept looking at the bill and counting. That wasn’t the issue, though. He was freaking me out because he was holding onto the bill. He already had it ready, the waitress kept coming by, but he wouldn’t give it to her. That was the point when I started to worry. I asked him, are you sure you got the bill. He said yes. I couldn’t even imagine getting caught not paying the bill. After we talk nonsense for another 20 minutes, I decided it was time to go. He looked around then said, OK let’s go. He left the bill on the table. When we got outside, I couldn’t help but think he didn’t pay the bill. I told him thanks for dinner and I will call him later. We left and I can say I never called him again.

It all goes to show you really don’t know somebody just by phone conversations. You have to go out and meet them in person. I am so glad I met him after a week so then not too much time was wasted. You really need to be honest upfront when dating. He should’ve told me more about his background on the phone. He was a nice guy but not the one I was looking for. I needed someone who was put together and stable. There’s a person for everyone; I’m sure he found his.