Dating Is Scary But Modern Dating Is Worse

We're living in the future, where we can look at our phones, and get anything we want. We buy clothes online, socialize there as well, we now order cars to come get us from any location to our destinations if you're like me and you hate driving. The internet has indeed made the world very small. We can converse with a person from a different country, and develop a relationship without ever meeting in person. It's quite exhilarating. It is all-new, exciting, and a bit scary.

We all know that humans function in communities, and we have that undying need to procreate, so of course, we must find a way to meet. In all honesty though, we don't just have sex to make babies. We are one of the few species that have sex for fun. This is where modern dating comes in. With the internet giving us everything at the touch of an app, getting laid has become that much easier.

Modern dating can be tricky, and that's because of how we view sex in society, and how sexually expressive women are viewed as well. A woman that speaks very clearly about her needs tends to be intimidating. Women are still expected to be sexually repressed. The dating game is changing, but the rules remain the same! It is very tricky.

Let's add the stigma that meeting a person online has. If you check some Tinder profiles, and you'll come across a coy "I'm willing to lie about how met." Why is that? My thoughts would be that we still consider meeting people online a bad thing, because we believe the internet is full of dangerous men and loose women. This isn't necessarily true, some relationships that started on any social media thrive, and some, of course, don't. That's life!

Modern dating has its fair share of misconceptions, but in my view, it is also trying to outdo traditional dating. There have been many arguments about monogamy being an unnatural thing for humans. We also have polygamy that favors the man to take multiple partners.

Modern dating favors ideals such as polyamory, and this a different player in tradition. Polyamory allows a person to have more than one partner, it is not just for one gender, but for everyone provided all parties involved agree, but those who choose this lifestyle face judgments from onlookers, then again anything that is not familiar does tend to get stares from outsiders.

I am, of course, in favor of modern dating. It's easier to meet like-minded individuals, but navigating the scene does become a bit of a headache. The problem always begins with not knowing what the other person is looking for. I once jokingly said I'm going to find the love of my life on Tinder, and the recipient of the said joke responded with an, "on a fuck app, yeah right." I met this person on Tinder, as expected he was no love of my life.

Another thing is, of course, the weirdos. I started talking with a racist man, I blindly allowed this interaction to continue for three months until I got to a point where I needed to stop talking to him, and we really had nothing in common. As it turns out, he didn't take too kindly to the rejection, then he saw it fit to harass me via email and texts. Two years on, he doesn't seem to be over the ordeal.

If I'm being honest, that is the only bad experience I had. I've met wonderful, normal, and charming individuals online. Nothing lasted long with those budding romances, but they were experiences lived, and are worthy of being recognized in my life.

My wish for modern dating is simple, let's start seeing each past the pictures. They're a bait, that cannot be denied, but we're still humans, booty shots or not. Let us be open to long-lasting connections, and the possibility of love. And above all, let us work on our issues, on ourselves, and heal so we can be open. Modern dating is different, because it has exposed us to a different world. Let's embrace it and evolve with life.