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Relationship Advice

By Ana LabradorPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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If you are having troubles with a guy or a girl this is the post for you. Today I received my first Dear Reader question and I can honestly say if this didn't come sooner I would have been worried.

Have any of you been in the situation where you have been talking to the same person for about a month and you still don't know where you two are headed if it is the friendship zone or the relationship zone? Well if so, this post is going to help you figure it out. With any relationship nowadays where we have multiple ways of talking, there is the version of talking which is when most people are referring to as the fact that they are talking with the intent of dating. The other version is just talking which is with the intent of just being your friend. Still following? Yes, you are (lol). Alright now to separate the two you must first know who you are talking to is it a girl or a guy.

First, let's talk about how you can separate talking and talking talking with guys. Men are naturally going to chase, and hunt they like a challenge but not too hard of a challenge. So if a guy is texting you first most of the time then he is most likely trying to pursue something with you. Now if you are doing all the texting first and continuing the conversation, you need to do one thing honey. LET HIM GO! He is not the right one for you and you deserve better he is just playing with your emotions and that's not good for your life. Men will naturally pursue you and try to talk to you and text first if they intend to date you.

Now, let us talk about women and how you can separate the two. Women love to flirt, what can I say, it is in our DNA. If you have a girl hitting you up with those winky faces and blushy face with flirty texts like,"You are so cute" or "We should hang out sometime" then you need to snatch this woman up cuff her because she into you and she wants you to make a move. Be warned. If she is not sending emojis and she is sending short responses she's not into you and you need to LET HER GO! Because trust me it's not worth it. Men and women are oddly similar just with a few differences.

Talking is talking but I have to say Ii you and some guy or girl have been talking for about a month, it is time you assess the relationship are you guys getting to know each other, are you or the other flirting, and do they text first sometimes or none of the time, short or lengthy responses? answer all these questions with what I have provided you and you will be able to know if you are talking or talking talking and chances are if it's for as long as a month you are talking with the intent of dating.

Now the second part of my readers question was that if you meet a guy or girl through mutual Friends on facebook and have been talking for a month only on Snapchat and Messenger, while going to the same college and passing each in awkward stares how to approach the idea of meeting up to actually meet and sit down and chat.

Well, the first reader, I would like to say thank you for asking the question most are scared to ask. I have a pretty short answer for this.

Don't be scared. I know I know cliché when I say hey don't be scared, but seriously don't be. He seems to be just as nervous as you to talk face to face because the transition between phone to person is actually a big when things can be awkward and cringy in the beginning but the meeting could make things go further along in the long run. I say you should take the initiative first and ask him to meet you for some coffee or lunch to get know each other and talk face to face. Try to make it seem casual and make it clear it is just as friends. This way when you meet up he won't feel more pressure and nervousness then he already is and this way you can relax and meet the guy you have been messaging for the past month.

I hope all of this helps you with your complications as you put it and I am excited to hear how it turned out to be sure to email me as soon as it happens.

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