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Do Not Fall for Jail House Talk

Heartache

By FELIX FosterPublished 7 years ago 3 min read
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Fuck the heartache!

My off and on again boyfriend admitted to me on our first visit after he went to jail that he loved me and that he was sorry he had not told me how he really felt before then. He released his property to me and asked to make sure we had phone time and he could get commissary. I took care of his finances and made sure he had everything he needed. He left the rest of his money with me so I would be ok, the next 2 months I had done the same. I even went beyond as to visit every other day for 2 1/2 months and him asking me to marry him (I said yes) as soon as he got out. Well, he gets released, the first day he was glad to see me and we had a good day. The next day he wakes up sick, and grumpy with an intense headache.

This goes on for a week and he is consistently negative then he says he just wants to be friends now because supposedly I started fights with him every day and that he can not trust me all of a sudden. I had only spoken when he was mean to me and if I expressed that he was not treating me right then I was trying to start a fight.

I do not understand, I thought it would be different but maybe it is all the same. Be wary of sudden claims of love from behind bars. Save yourself the heartache. I have been through too much of the same thing and they all, unfortunately, turn out the same.

They tell you what you want to hear until they are free, hang around long enough just to get another place to stay and get some money in their pockets then they are gone before you even know what happened.

Know the signs and do not ever get too invested until you know them for some time on the outside.

When they get out is when they really show what they are about and it won't be as devastating to your heart.

In some cases they just need time to get used to being on the outside again, the longer they are behind bars the longer the adjustment period you should allow them. If you choose to do that and something still feels wrong in your gut then there is something wrong no matter how much you want to ignore it, it will keep coming up until you fix it or leave it. Knowing when to take what action is the hardest decision to make so good luck and keep these words in mind: I am better than any relationship with mental or physical abuse or manipulation. Always keep your end straight forward and honest though no matter what.

These guys make a really bad name for the ones that really do want to change and make a better life with you because of the predators in there that tell you what you want to hear in order to get what they want and need on the inside, from manipulating your heart and head and playing with you like a cat toy and when they find a fresh plot of catnip they will never look back twice and this happens way more than any of us would really like to admit, so know that you are not alone and it is ok for you to walk away you deserve to be happy also.

Good luck and best wishes to you all.

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