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Do You Believe in Love at First Sight? (ToTD)

Chemistry, philosophy, whatever the fuck you wanna base your argument in, the question is: Do you believe?

By Chloe HicksPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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I do and I don’t. It can happen but it doesn’t always, it is one of the many types of love someone can experience in their lifetime. Sometimes you meet someone and instantly you’re in awe of them and within seconds of meeting you know there’s something about them that isn’t ordinary. They stand out from the crowd and they haven’t even said a word yet; not only are they beautiful but there’s just something about them, something no one can ever write about without sounding like a delusional freak.

And sometimes you meet someone and you hate them, then that hate turns to love, and before you know it you’ve found true love. Sometimes, and this is possible my favourite one, sometimes you don’t even notice they’re there. You can’t even recall the first time you met them it was that uneventful, they seemed nice or not, but they never stood out and then one day, after seeing them 100 times before, suddenly something clicks. Something shifts and they’re no longer nobody, you see something that didn’t exist the day before and your view of them is forever changed. You can’t help but look for them in a crowd when you enter a room, smile when someone mentions their name and get butterflies when you see them again. They’re what every sad pop artist has been signing about for the past decade, they’re more than a stranger or a friend, they’re something else entirely.

Science suggests woman take 15 days to fall in love; now even if that is a load of bollocks. Nevertheless it’s interesting they worked it out to be 15 days. 2 weeks and one day, 360 hours, over 20,000 minutes and a shit load of seconds. It is both a long time and not, and most definitely not when in regards to love — something supposed to be so big, so grand, and so centric to life. They say you know when it happens, the moment you meet someone and your life has changed forever but nowhere does it say this has to be the moment you meet; sometimes the pieces take time to settle and come together rather than being instantly exactly where they need to be. 15 days, long enough to take a crash course in driving, go on holiday, and so many other random things: point is, it’s a fair bit of time. Think back to what you were doing 15 days ago, or if you struggle with that, try two weeks to make the days a bit simpler. 15 days ago I was watching the Superbowl, or attempting to, at least; there was a fair bit of eating, researching the rules and napping involved intermittently. To put it in perspective, like that it seems so long ago; since then I’ve been to 6 lectures, 4 seminars, 4 workshops, 2 trainings, had 3 Tescos shops, 2 trips to Windsor, 3 nights out, and one family visit. When you put it like that it’s a fucking lot, to meet someone, go on some dates and get to know them. I dunno, I feel maybe you could be in love by 15 days but it’s not the sort of love you find everyday. It would be the corny romantic shit poets write about, the one where two souls collide and by day 15 it’s obvious, it’s just about admitting it, you love this person.

The other crucial part is science argues it takes 15 days to fall in love, not fall for the one or anything else. Merely to meet someone and provided they don’t annoy the shit out of you too much in the first date then two weeks later you could be in love with them. Who knows how long it would last, maybe only a few months, a year, that part isn’t science's concern.

Ironically, on the other hand men take just 8.2 seconds to fall in love. Now a lot of presumptuous, sexist comments could be made here, but maybe the men are onto something; quick thinking, no faffing, cut straight to the chase. This of course is more the sort of love at first sight people would be relating to; you’re at the bar trying to order a beer like you have been for the last 25 minutes but the bartender's glazing past you flirting with all the single women. It happens over and over until you just can’t take it. “You gotta be fucking kidding me,” you mutter to yourself as yet another women appears beside you and leapfrogs you in the queue. But this time she hears you, “You alright there?” The anger rages as you turn to face her, “Yeah, no, it’s fab, not like I want a drink or anything...” As you finish your sentence staring right at her, the stopwatch in your head starts. Now all of a sudden, 8.2 seconds seems like an eternity. The chat continues as you manage to hold your tongue and introduce yourself, she’s nice, polite and smiley but not annoyingly happy, somehow finding the perfect balance. “Let me get these for you,” she says smiling. Beautiful, polite, and kind; holy shit, it must be love. Boom, 8.2 seconds and he’s already in love; he knows he’s gonna have to buy her drinks in return and dance with her all night, he’ll get her number and call her in the morning, but all he’s thinking about right now is beer. Beer and the amazingly hot girl that’s getting it for him.

And just like that, you have love; still a highly debated term, scientifically and philosophically, but for now there’s arguments for and against love at first sight. Me, on the other hand? I think it can happen, it’s rare and magical and all that shit, but it can happen if only you take the leap and believe it’s love.

I want that. The kind of love that makes you believe in destiny.

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