Don't Waste Your Time If You See These Red Flags

Nowadays, some men, in general, are confusing, but I am noticing more that ALL MEN are confusing, period. Their words and actions do not coincide. Women think that men mature the older they get. However, that is not always the case. Unfortunately, they can mature in some ways, but not in one specific category—the courting of women and relationships. Apparently, men think that they are a good gift to us. I am sorry, I beg to differ. I had an experience with this older man that I met. Mind you, when I first met him, I thought I had meet the ideal man. It was an instant feeling I had. After months of dealing with him, though, I started to see a lot of red flags.

At first, I thought that because I am ten years younger than him, he could take advantage of me and have me eating out of the palm of this hand. Little did he know that I could read the BS he was feeding me. I can tell you that definitely did not happen. One minute he was sweet, he would text everyday, but then out of nowhere he did a 180. What a different man I saw. Of course, you're automatically going to think that I gave it up. No ladies, that did not happen. It took almost a year for that to even happen. All we did was have dinner and chat. The funny thing was that we had great conversations, and the next morning he would reach out, which meant he had a great time and that the conversation was helping him and I get somewhere.

Boy was I wrong. It led nowhere. It was an ongoing circle leading nowhere. When I asked, "Hey, lets hang," there was always an excuse. We could not see each other on weekends. Nothing. So I started to put two and two together. I started to think, man this guy thinks I am that dumb. I got very annoyed at this point because I really thought he was different, not because of what I felt, but for the simple fact that he was older, he would be mature and play no games. Hence, that was not the case. I started to really observe him even more, and realized that this guy had the ugly duckling syndrome. What is the ugly duckling syndrome? When he was younger, he might've not been very popular with the ladies. So, when he got older, got hot and the ladies were throwing themselves at him. That might work with other women, but not with me. Does not work whatsoever.

Ladies, when your into a man, if he shows you these actions, don’t even bother going forward. Honestly, it is not going anywhere.

1. You know he's constantly on the phone, yet you're the one text message that he doesn’t get.

Nowadays, with the way technology is, there is always a way to receive your messages. Obviously, one of which is your phone, but then we have other the alternatives. We have the Apple watches and iPads. Unless their phone is off or broken, yes ladies, they're getting your text, they're just choosing not to answer it. Think of it this way: when we are interested in someone, we either ignore the text or chose not to answer it.

2. He is a "BUSY" man.

I know our lives are busy, but no matter how busy we are, we always try to get back to everyone who texts or calls. Trust me, I get it, but no one is that busy.

3. We need to schedule our time to see each other.

Yeah ok ladies, c'mon, we are not that stupid. We make time for who we want to spend time with we don’t schedule it in. We are not a corporation we’re humans.

Well ladies, hopefully this helps you. Don’t ever let a man make you feel lesser. Always remember we’re not everyone’s cup a tea, and that’s ok. Move on from that. You deserve better.