Excuses Are like Assholes

They say that excuses are like ass holes. Everyone has got them. Maybe you did not write a letter because you had no stamps. Or maybe you did not call because you did not have enough time. Maybe you did not let a friend know when your plans changed. Maybe you did not feel like fighting with your girlfriend so you lied to her. Whatever it was you have an excuse for it.

Like all butt holes, we all have excuses for one reason or another. A boss at Freddy's used the excuse that she was hateful to her employees because of money, and the fact that her kids treated her like crap so she treated her workers like crap, which was just abuse. A mother claimed she did not go see her son because she was taking care of her mother. A friend claimed that she could not drive her friend to see her husband because she had to work.

Webster's dictionary defines excuses as an attempt to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offense); seek to defend or justify.

When you think about this what reasons do you make excuses for? What about the people around you? I often find that people in my life are making excuses for their faults. Making lies up to make their own selves look better to other people when they have lied, or let someone they care about down. In some peoples, thoughts making up excuses are better than taking responsibility for their actions.

One of my favorite excuses that I have heard is a woman that told her son and his wife that she would go visit him in prison. One minute the excuse was that she could not go because she did not have a ride and the next it was that she had to take of her mother, but even a month after her mother died and she still had made no attempts to see her son.

How do you deal with people and their excuses? Well, the first thing you have to remember that a reason and an excuse are two very different things. When the friend I mentioned told her friend she could not take her because she had to work, that would have been a reason why she could not help her friend out. However, it is an excuse when she is told that she is not able to drive her because the friend has to go to work, but yet she is on facebook posting pictures about traveling and going to the zoo.

Second, do not let their excuses define what you do about it. You do not have to listen to and accept their excuses. Ask them for the truth. Even if it is something you might not want to hear, it might be something they do not want to say. But if you do not make them accountable for it nothing will change.

If you can not deal with the excuses that someone gives, you can choose to not be around them. You can tell them how it makes you feel. You can choose not to buy into their excuses. Whatever you choose to do, remember that you can not change what another person does, but you can choose how you deal with the person, and how often that person is around you, to even be able to make the excuses up to you in the first place. Just because you want a person in your life does not mean you have to have that behavior in your life.

When does an excuse become a lie?