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Falling out of Love

(On Purpose)

By Short Storm .Published 6 years ago 3 min read
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Sometimes love fades away in a relationship, and it's hard to leave the person you once thought was your forever, but things change, people change, and you feel it's time to finally let go.

Falling in love is incredibly easy, but falling out and leaving seems to be very scary and nerve-wracking. If you feel you need to leave this person for any reason, maybe they aren't treating you the way you should be treated, maybe they changed for the worse, or you just don't see a future with them anymore. You don't have to sit here and explain to me exactly why you want to leave, that's none of my business. I'm writing this today so you can fall out of love with the person you no longer seem connected too. Here are the tips for an easier breakup, well... for you at least.

Side note: I was in a controlling relationship, so this is why I found ways to lose the love/feelings for my ex.

Focus on the things that annoy you the most.

In my past relationship, I focused on the annoying habits my ex had that just extremely got on my last nerves. The way he smoked cigarettes, the way he talked, or even the way he chewed his food. Yes, I know these seem to be very mean or stupid details, but when I actually sat there and listened, watched and took little notes in my head, I started growing this distance between him, which was the point.

Stop accepting apologies.

Now my ex did a lot of horrible things to me, not gonna lie I can't even count to the number because it's just so damn high. I learned to stop accepting his half-ass apologies, and when I say stop accepting them, I mean tell him/her, "It's okay I'm over it," but keep these little notes in your head and just keep tabs on how many times your partner has to even apologize, because once you start noticing how much crap you actually took in your relationship, it makes you realize it's never-ending and you need to drop this person like it's hot.

Evaluate your feelings, a lot.

Sit by yourself and actually think for a second, are you truly happy with this person or just comfortable? Now a lot of people stay with someone so long because they are just comfortable with their surroundings, it's a common thing in relationships. People mix up love with comfort, and it's honestly hard to detect, but once you do, it'll be ten times easier to leave this relationship.

Ignore them.

I know this seems cruel, but if you start ignoring their texts from time to time and spend time with yourself when you're away from them, it makes it easier for you to grow some distance between one another. This is going to make it easier to leave and not be as heart broken about the break up when it happens.

Final Thought

These are just a couple things I did to get out of my horrible relationship and they honestly helped. I am not saying this is for everyone whatsoever, but if you are mistreated in a way that makes you click this link, you need to really think for yourself. Remember, this is your life, you only get to live once, so make sure it is filled with love, support, and memories that you'll enjoy telling when you're older. Someone who treats you wrongly, or uses you, DOES NOT, I repeat, DOES NOT deserve to have you wrapped around their arm. Like I said, falling in love is easy, but leaving is probably one of the hardest things a person can do. You deserve the world, nothing less.

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About the Creator

Short Storm .

Hi I am 20 years old! I love writing about life experiences and ways to over come them. along with tips and examples to help you through this wild roller coaster we call life!

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