Finding a Mate

Everyone dreams of finding someone, and falling in love, and getting married (well, at least I do), and they want the babies-in-the-cradle type of life. Well, that is getting harder and harder to find in this day and age.

Guys make it so hard for me to keep that dream. It's like all they want is nude pics. NUDE PICS! I am an adult woman wanting an adult relationship, and do not want to send nudes to a man every five seconds. But, guys in 2018 act like children and I am not here for that at all, because I am not your mother. What happened to: "how are you doing today?" "how can I make you smile?" "can I take you out to a dinner or a movie or a walk in the park?" and "can you tell me what is on your mind?" What happened to that type of gentleman? I can tell you what happened, these type of men are currently in hiding and hibernating for some apparent reason.

It seems like chivalry just went out the window in the early 2000s, it's like as soon as it hit everything changed so drastically, and it went all the way downhill from there. There are women my age who want that chivalrous type of man, the kind of man who pulls out chairs and holds doors open for them and wants to help them out of tough situations. It is getting really hard to find them. Young men these days think that taking care of a woman in any kind of way is disgraceful, and that they instead should be taken care of in every part of the relationship. Men stopped wanting to take on the manly role — well some of them anyways.

Some women do like the "nude pics" guys and more power to y'all but I am, and so many of us are, looking for something different in a man and looking for husbands — not one-time flings or hit it and quit type of relationships. Those relationships just get tiring and draining. After a while, you just want something real and someone you can depend on at the end of the day and know that they have your back.

Surely, there is someone for everyone but it's like the good ones are hiding under rocks and the "nude pic" guys are out and ready to play. But, don't give up hope, because soon the "sexy pic" guys and the real gentlemen will resurface. There is always a season and a time and soon the "Netflix and chill" kind-of guy will soon go back into hiding, and the "dinner and a movie" kind of man will come back in style. I cannot wait until that happens. Once this happens, all relationships will most definitely be relationship goals again.

At the end of the day, everyone has a type of person they want to be with and whom they see a future with. But there are some who wish that relationships were the same way they were when our grandparents were dating, and getting to know people and seeing how everything was so simple and not complicated by other influences. But things are changing, but that doesn't mean you have to settle for any old kind of partner. Make sure you pick someone who you know will make you happy at the end of a long week, day, or hour. Just be patient and never lose you standards that you have.