Finding My Husband

Growing up, I always dreamed of a magical wedding, walking down the aisle with the perfect dress. Each man I met during my teenage years if there was an inkling of a crush, I might imagine them in a suit and wonder what it would be like to be called "wife." Not to sound stalkerish or anything.

What really makes two crazy people fall in love so much so they want to announce it to the world? Surely, marriage isn't as easy as they make it look in the movies. Yes, I have watched Mr. Darcy walking through the sunrise in Pride and Prejudice—because who doesn't do that when you're single on Valentine's Day. It was something I wanted, my Mr. Darcy (fancy English accent a plus), but I often ended up left in shattered pieces from a failed relationship or heartbreak. I was chasing the wrong guys, as cliche as it sounds.

Now, when I look at the ring on my left finger, I realize I did find my soulmate. Some people may laugh at such a notion, but the best way I can explain it is my fiancee picked up my broken pieces. He pulled me through dark times when others might have left, and he made me laugh when I felt like a potato. When you hold each other close, you feel as if you're breathing as one. Everything else fades away when he holds me. It makes disappointments in life and heartache a lot easier when someone is there to grab on to your hand. There is trust there when in the past I was afraid to trust any guy. Cue the violins here.

Marriage is something I can't wait to do with my fiancee. It's a public declaration to show friends and family, hey we found someone we want to spend our life with.It doesn't mean there won't be arguments or frustration along the way. Getting engaged was the best moment because this guy puts up with my lame jokes, my weird sense of humour, at my worst and best. Yet he still wants to spend everyday with me. I feel lucky!

The best advice I can give if you're planning your own wedding is to not stress out about finances. Crazy, right? Know what you can afford and don't try to please others. Marriage is simply the celebration on the day, but you have your whole lives ahead of each other. Amid the chaos of planning, unrealistic expectations on Pinterest, or Instagram, the reason for getting married in the first place can get lost. Focus on your love for each other and that's all that should matter, not how big or extravagant the cost of the wedding is.