Five Surefire Ways to Show a Lady That You Love Her

Guys, there are some things that we can figure out and there are other things that we need help with. If we get a flat tire or our car is making a strange noise, we usually know what to do. But, if your romance goes flat, you are clueless. I should know. I've been clueless a few time myself, but I learned from my mistakes.

My dating life is over and like the oracles of Greek lore, I gained a lot of wisdom. It would be a dang shame if I died and did not share this info with you. Therefore, have a seat and absorb all that I am going to share with you. If you are looking for a special someone, this should help. If you have someone and wish to keep her, you're in the right place. Here we go!

A. Listen to Her

On the day that both of you were born, you were given a mouth and a pair of ears. Hopefully, both functioned and still do. They have a purpose. Your mouth dispenses the words and your ears receive them. Sometimes, they may not function correctly. Guys, in this area, it is our ears that do not work well. Yes, we can hear things. We can hear the crack of a baseball bat, the sound of a Hemi engine or our favorite tune on the radio. But, do we actually LISTEN to our mate?

I am an English teacher. Many times, we tend to use words that we think are synonyms (words that have the same meaning), but they are not. Case in point: I used the word HEARING. That is different from the word LISTENING. How so? Okay. When you are having trouble with your ears you go to a doctor. He or she administers a what? They administer a HEARING TEST. What is the difference between HEARING and LISTENING? Well, hearing involves the fact that you know a sound was made. If the driver near you hits their horn, you will HEAR the sound of the horn. LISTENING, on the other hand, involves paying attention to what that sound is telling you.

I remember an old comical line from the TV show Cheers. The Norm character walked into the bar and said that he and his wife Vera had an argument because, as he said it, "She said that I don't listen to her....or something like that. I wasn't paying attention."

She is going to talk because she is going to assume that you are LISTENING to her. It is a fact, though, that a man only hears EVERY OTHER word while a woman hears EVERY SINGLE WORD. There is a great solution for you so that this won't end up in a divorce court or some embarrassing scene on a city street somewhere. When she speaks, try to stop what you are doing unless you are driving down a highway or piloting a plane. Look her in her lovely eyes and wait until she finishes speaking. Then, try to sum up what she said just to show her that you were really paying attention to her. If you get a detail wrong, she will gently correct you because she will know that you were trying and doing your best. Give it a try. It'll work.

B. Talk With Her

As a writer, I carry a voice recorder. Sometimes, I forget the brand and how much battery juice it may have, but I know I have it. When I need it, I will switch it on and, of course, talk into it. Then, when I am done, I will put it away. As long as I don't break it, I don't think about it anymore.

Guys, a lady is not a voice recorder. You don't say anything and not think about it. She has feelings, feelings that are easily hurt. She is emotionally fragile. Be gentle with her. You need to be very careful. Our mouths tend to get us into a whole lot of trouble. We tend to talk first and ten minutes later, think about what we said. Besides, would you like someone to talk TO you the way you talk TO her? Nope? You want someone to talk WITH you. You want them to be receptive to what you have to say. You want to give your feedback. She wants to give feedback, too. It is called a conversation. Talk WITH her, not AT her. Don't boss her around. She is your mate, not your employee.

C. Show Her Respect

A whole lot of us morons... er... guys forget this one from time to time. Show her some respect. It is a simple thing to do. Hold a door open for her. Say something nice. Compliment her. Notice her. Make her feel good. How difficult is it to brighten up her day?

I remember one day as I was going to work, I saw a very nice lady sitting in a subway car just a seat next to me. To be very honest, I wanted to kiss her. But, my inner conscience obviously told me not to do so. Instead, just five minutes before my stop, I whispered into her ear, "Hi. You are a very nice lady. Thank you for brightening up my day. Please enjoy your day. Take care." That was not. As I got up and stood near the door in order to get off, I turned around and noticed her looking at me. She waved and smiled. I did not make her nervous. That was not my intent. I just wanted to give her a great start to her day.

She is a LADY. Treat her like a lady.

D. Take an Interest in Her

What does she like? What doesn't she like? What interests her? What doesn't interest her? She is a human. Find out something about her. She is not just your mate, but she is almost like a human relations project. Each day, she will intentionally or unintentionally reveal something about her.

Your relationship is going to be like a baseball game. When you hit the field, you don't know where that ball is going to go and where it may land. Your job is to be prepared to catch it. Your job is to show your team that you can hustle. Nobody likes a player who is always dropping the ball that he could have easily caught. If you know the batter, you know what to expect. Get ready.

Your mate is the best batter in the business. She will hit a few out of the park, but 99% of what she will hit will go directly to YOU. That is why you better not drop the ball because she will always get a hit. Be her MOST VALUABLE!

E. Show Her That You Really Love Her

Do you love her? I mean do you REALLY love her? How do you show it? Do you bring her flowers? Do you take her out on a date even if you are married to her? Do you replay the song that you heard or associate with the time you met or kissed her? Do you rekindle the magic moment with her? What do you do that shows that you love her?

Sometimes, it is just the simple things that will do the trick. You don't need to buy a fancy car or fly her to Paris although I won't tell you to not do it. You have to start with the little things that will make her notice that you still love and care for her. The lady wants you, not your wallet. If you sense that she wants your wallet instead, you are not in a relationship. You are in a holdup. Face it. A robber doesn't care about your feelings, what bothers you or how you are going to get home. She is robbing you. Then again, if you are not showing her that you really love her, you are robbing her, too. You are robbing her of her time and energy. Why should she do for you if you don't care or want to be bothered? that is why you see cheating. Somebody is unhappy and they desire to go elsewhere. Your inattention to her could end up driving her elsewhere.

There you go and that's all I know. I had to learn from experience. My time with romance has come and gone. However, this is your time. Don't squander your chances. Just like you found her, you could just as easily lose her. There are guys who are standing on the sideline. That may not scare you now, but when you mess up (hopefully you won't), they will spare no time in rushing in to take over for you. They are like sharks in the sea of love and romance. You are just bloodying up the water for them. She is suffering from a bleeding heart. I should know. It has happened to me once. She could be fed up already and is waiting for that someone special to come along. Yes, she will put up with you for now, but she will bolt when she gets the chance to do so. Once she leaves you, there is no way to get her back. This is what she wanted and you refused to bend. Take it to heart. Make her the star of your show.

That's it. I hope that I helped you in any way possible. Good luck.