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Getting ready to say I do can be an exciting and confusing time. So many couples will rush into this subject without any real thought into it. There are a few things that you should consider in advance of the big day. These things can help to ease your mind and allow you to be a lot more prepared for the road that you and your spouse are about to embark on. Taking this journey will not be something that either one of you should take lightly and the better prepared that you are, then the better the chances are that your marriage will have success.
Rid Yourself of Negative Examples
There is a chance that growing up either you or a friend of yours was in the middle of a bad marriage between two adults. The first thing that you need to do before you buy or accept any engagement rings, is to make sure you understand that just because your parents or your friend's parents could not make it work does not mean you and your soon to be spouse are doomed as well. Let go of these negative thoughts and accept that if you and your spouse love one another that you will be able to survive anything.
Think Can Your Partner Handle Conflict
There are some couples that when there is a conflict handle it like a boss, there are others that the least little bump in the road appears and it is a war to end them all. Pay attention to the way that you and your soon to be handle these bumps. If there does not seem to be a lot of conflicts, then you two might have a shot at it. If things get confrontational then you might want to take a second look at the current situation and see if you need to address this with them and try to find a way to work things out.
Do the Two of You Share the Same Faith
Faith in a marriage can be a point of contention especially if the beliefs are far from one another. An example of this is a person marrying a Baptist that is a Catholic. These two are going to lead at times to conflict and as such cause an ever existent conflict in the marriage. If you are always at one another over religion, then you may want to reconsider things.
Do They Tend to Look for an Easy Out
If you two are always fighting and they are always looking for a way to get out of the marriage, then you may want to reconsider things seriously. If they are looking for a way out of the relationship before you even get married what makes you think that they will cease their behavior and not be looking for a divorce all the time.
Do your Parents Like Them or Not?
The parents can be a big deciding factor in if you are going to stay with the person you are with or not. If your parents are not fans of them, then this may need to be listened to. Your parent's opinion will mean a lot and the better that you listen to them, then the better that your odds of finding the right person will be.
These few things can make all the difference in the world as to the success or failure of your marriage. Having the time to sit down and look at all of these details can help you a great deal in finding the right person that you will want to marry. While love may be there, that may not be enough to prevent the simplest of issues from destroying your marriage. A little preparation, in the beginning, can save you a load of heartbreak down the road. Don’t rush into this with your eyes closed and regret that you did not ask some basic questions.