Goodbye Negative Nancy's, Hello Positive Pasta's

Have you ever been so happy about something going on in your life that you just want to announce it to everyone you know? You are hoping that they will help you celebrate your accomplishment, but after you let them know of your successes, you’re saddened to find out that they are not as happy as you are for yourself. They may even start to put you down for being so happy, and you may start to feel judged. This can be exhausting, and more times than not, hurtful.

It is so emotionally draining when you continuously put effort into someone or something and the outcome is always the same.

Maybe there is something you can do to get the positive responses that you are looking for. Maybe it is time to let all of the negative Nancy's go. You know you best, so if you have examined your life and made the necessary changes to yourself, but still feel like you are being treated poorly, it may be time to take the next step. It may be harder than it sounds. Make sure you are treating them with compassion, and kindness through everything, because you never know what they could be going through. Approach the person and have a conversation with them. Ask them if you are doing anything to hurt or bother them. Often times, the way someone treats you is actually how they treat themselves. Be gentle and caring, especially if the person you have to let go is family. When do you know for sure that it is time to let them go? Before you completely release the arrow, you should make sure they are aware of the way they make you feel. Let them know they are dragging you down, and enforce the way you want to be treated. If they get defensive, or maybe even start hurting you more... it is probably time to say, “Hasta la vista.”

If they bring nothing but negativity, and do not add anything positive to your life, it will most likely support both of you if you step up and make this hard decision.

Whether it be unfriending them, unfollowing them, writing them a letter, or even having a truthful, heart to heart conversation, you have to make the first move. It may be difficult and uncomfortable, and you may even feel some guilt, but it is so necessary if you want to protect your energy and your heart. Be prepared to lose other “friends” in the process of detoxing your life. If they leave because you’re bettering yourself, that’s their problem and you do not need them.

Some may think it is necessary to take revenge, or return the hurtful feelings, but it is not. Taking revenge really does not make much sense and it is very hypocritical. The best thing you can do after letting go of someone who does not seem to care, is to make sure you make something positive of the space that you just opened up in your life. Do not replace the space with more negative vibes. Show the world you are better off without hurtfulness and make sure people know that you mean business when it comes to keeping your life positive. Let go of negativity because you love yourself enough to not keep people in your life who drag you down.